I think my ex made me asexual.

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Ever since my girlfriend broke up with me last year I have had no interest in meeting other girls. Even before I knew her I had no interest in relationships and saw them as stupid but our relationship gradually developed anyways after living together and lasted a few years until she got sick of me. Since then not only do I still have no interest in romance, I see no point in getting laid either. It seems like a waste of time and overrated. I still have a normal sex drive but feel satisfied with jacking off. Every girl I know of has something I really don't like about her and I doubt anyone will ever meet my standards anyways. It seems improbable that there is someone else like me and even if there is it is unlikely I will ever meet them. While I still have a normal sex drive, if I could get rid of it for good I think I would because it makes life easier and sex and romance is nothing but a waste of time.

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  • kelili
    10 years ago

    It's not an obligation to be in a relationship. My French college teacher never got married and from what I've heard had been in a relationship only once. I still meet him now and then and he is still single and a very happy man.

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    • RoseIsabella
      10 years ago

      Right on!

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  • 69
    10 years ago

    we hardly ever end up with someone who meets the standards. everyone has character flaws and other issues we don't appreciate but the trick is finding the person whose flaws don't bother you so much and compromise. even though i'm saying this i also think romance and love and sex can be a waste of time sometimes depending on who you chose to be with. and no you can't be defined as asexual

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  • MysticLane
    10 years ago

    You're not asexual, you're just sensible.

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  • circles101
    10 years ago

    Trying to find a relationship is a waste of time. You just have to let it happen naturally. You will end up with someone you don't really like if you try to force it. Enjoy being single, it makes everything more simple and less stressful anyway.

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  • KeddersPrincess
    10 years ago

    I think you need a broader understanding of asexuality. Many asexuals are romantic and would like to be in a relationship with someone. Some heteromantic, some biromantic, some homoramantic, panromantic, and the list goes on. Even aromantics (which is the term I think you're looking for) often seek the companionship of a partner.

    Being an asexual means you have no desire for sex. While some asexuals still get turned on by fetishes and others (grey-asexuals) may even find themselves sexually attracted to people, the desire to have sex is not there.

    What I think you are going through is simply heartbreak. You no longer want to put your trust in someone. It doesn't make you an asexual. It means you just don't want a girlfriend.

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  • RoseIsabella
    10 years ago

    I can relate to this although I wouldn't say I'm asexual but rather that after two divorces and other relationships I'm extra wary of romantic entanglements. No one ever died from not having sex. In many ways I'm happier and more fulfilled living a more solitary life, at least for now. For now I'm focused on myself and my mental, physical and spiritual health.

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    • shuggy-chan
      10 years ago

      Crazy cat lady ^ =D

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      • RoseIsabella
        10 years ago

        He's got the morning frisky attack mode right now!

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        • shuggy-chan
          10 years ago

          They always do, watch yo feet gurlll. He nip deem toes

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          • RoseIsabella
            10 years ago

            Child, you know that's right.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    You're right girls can be a real pain in the ass and if it's not one you really don't like it's often not worth the drama or problems.

    BUT when it is one you really like it's totally worth it so remember that and keep your heart open.

    In the meantime if you're not that interested in sex with girls right now then don't do it.

    As you've discovered by now that's why GOD gave guys hands.

    Btw, sex with some girls is pretty bad if all they do is lay there and expect you to do all the work and you don't really like them but sex with other girls is amazing.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      Part of it is I have found girls I really liked only to have them change. In my last relationship we had lots in common when we met but her complaint about me was that she changed and I did not.
      I don't think I can ever trust someone not to change and judge me for not doing the same.
      No matter how much you know somebody you can never be certain if you really do.

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      • noid
        10 years ago

        I totally agree.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    You can't change sexual orientation.

    You're straight then, you're straight now.

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  • tripw7
    10 years ago

    If I have a few beers, jacking off is really a pleasure. I get the pressure off of being not relieved, and I enjoy the fact that I can provide pleasure without being involved. I say, the hand job is not all bad.....

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  • Dot123
    10 years ago

    I know that feel. I have no interests in relations. I am a loner. I am just waiting till the time comes.

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