I think my boyfriend is gay

Me and my boyfriend have been friends for about two years, and I've know from the beginning that he likes me, but all my friends say hes gay. A few weeks ago he finally asked me out, and I took a while, but I said yes. The problem is he talks like a gay guy, he wont kiss me and he wont hold my hand, let alone have sex. He says he's just a little nervous and he'll get over it, but I think I'm dating a gay guy, but if I dump him and he's not, I'm going to feel awful, HELP!

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  • TripMonster

    Give the guy a chance. Let him come to terms with himself. He might be gay, but let him see for himself with you. You'll be helping the guy out a lot.

    Eventually you should just give him a surprise kiss, and see how he reacts and feels about it. Try to corner him a sexual position, as in make the situation where he has to react in a sexual way or else it'd be considered rude.

    I think being aggressive in the relation would really help. He could just be a really submissive guy, there are straight guys out there who are just very submissive and sensative.

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  • abbeyroad

    Don't listen to the bad advice here.

    The dude needs to figure it out for himself. Do NOT corner him and force him to do something sexual. That's not a good idea at all.

    Give him a chance if you like him. Maybe he's just a bit different. If things don't improve soon though, I would move on. But do not make the mistake of thinking you know what he wants more than he does and do not force him to do something he's not ready to do. He'll end up resenting you for both those scenarios.

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  • polkadots

    There are a lot of relly feminine guys and a lot of them aren't gay. And gay guys can be really butch so you shouldn't just assume that he's gay just because he's effeminate. Also it's not smart to force yourself on him. He'll come around if that's what he wants, and if not there's not really much you can do about it. Just be patient, he might be gay, but he might just not be in love with you yet.

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  • dearhunter

    Give him a chance.

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  • vitamello

    Open communication is key. Talk about it.

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  • mibytes

    I certainly hope you get this message.
    For starters its bad and good to be assertive but honestly let it take its course. If you have a feeling he maybe bi or gay, I would certainly be more opt to ask him if he is slow at relationships and be honest with him.
    I would not throw myself at a man some men may think your easy and do you really want that?
    He sounds to be a good catch but instead of asking us, ask him. Hey, I want to talk to you. Tell him you liked him a long time. Ask him how long he has liked you. Ask him if he is nervous around you. Tell him stuff that matters. Maybe he may be more incline to talk with you more instead of feeling like the both of you are nervous wrecks and have no clue what to do.

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  • joelsmo

    Why would you even date the guy if you think he is gay? Is this guy the only guy in town or what? He most likely is guy, so either go buy a strap on or look some place else.

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  • biguy

    I think you should give him a chance he could be bi and thats ok.

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  • Crunchy_taco

    Give him achance. Just to make sure, get a really hot guy to walk pass him when your not there. Observe and see If he checks out that guy if he does, he's gay

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    • matthewkoehler

      I would check out a hot looking guy walking in front of me too and I'm definitely not gay.

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  • Hard_Candy

    Yes he's gay. Don't understand why more women don't listen to their gut. We have woman's intuition for a reason. Your gut is screaming at you that this guy is gay but you won't listen why? If you don't learn to listen and trust yourself you're going to have a hard time out there.

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  • mr.M

    ok walk in butt naked and if he turns u down he's gay..or hold on i got it tell him u think watching two guys in bed is hot to see his reaction..if he agrees he's a flammer

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  • korn3654

    Gay

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  • BoredGuy

    maybe he is just nervous :P

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  • kukurami

    He is a Gay believe your friends,they can see things that you dont see

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