I think my bff and me are not really friends

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Ok, I have this friend I met at 5th grade and studied with her half a year, but then I transferred. Since then we've kept this bond as bff.A couple of years later we studied middle school together.

But anyways I feel like she understands me and she tells me she feels like I understand her too. And I'm always talking about us being bff and of my talents. But thing is their is this tension between us always. And although we seem so close I feel as tough she secretly hates me! Cause I'm always talking about me, I'm always reminding her her flaws, I always seem depressed, sometimes my teasings go to far, I tend to get too involved with her life, and think I can understand her while I bet I can't.
I feel like the bad guy of the story!!! I think I deserve to be hated and be alone. I'm a horrible friend.

And in the other hand I secretly hate her too but at the same time consider her feelings a little bit too much. What annoys me about her is that she tends to ignore me and my complaints(Which I understand), when I try to ask her stuff like "do you hate me?" "Should I stop being your friend?" she either changes subject or stays quite. It makes me get sad! If she wants to just cut the friendship and dissapear she can do it! I understand!
I'm really trying to consider her feelings and am not sure if I should tell her to stop the friendship or continue torturing her with my precense!
Even if I cry for months of loosing my bff;if what she really wants is for our friendship to end then I'll consider her feelings and stop talking to her! I know I'm a horrible person and don't deserve her friendship! :(

Am I being to optimistic? Am I worth her time? If there are people in her position what would they want me to do?

Is our friendship real or a fake?

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Based on 39 votes (15 yes)
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Comments ( 8 )
  • jennaj
    13 years ago

    Stop talking about yourself n putting her down!!! Be a real friend

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  • Fifi_la_Fume
    8 years ago

    You aren't american or english, right?

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  • CarsGirlsGunsMoneyMade
    12 years ago

    Thank god I'm a guy!

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  • DudeUrFuglyXox
    13 years ago

    you. are. an. idiot. If she didnt want to be your 'BFF' then she would have dumped you a long time ago. I agree, i think u talk way to much about yourself, i think ur very isecure, and need to grow up. if shes ur best friend you should even think of not talking to her, you dont seem like a good friend to me but maybe she likes you or she would have said something. btw theres no such thing as bff, coz nothing lasts forever x

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  • Gidget
    13 years ago

    ur stressed too much if u know she hates it when u bitch and complain too much and she doesnt like u talkin about u all the time and pointing out her flaws stop doing it that ought to fix it

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  • avocadism
    13 years ago

    i think the best solution to kept ur bff is to be honest to each other. starting by urself :)

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  • Anon.y.moose
    13 years ago

    I don't think you're "a meanie" as alex so roughly stated.

    My best friend and I have been friends for a good long time. I'm the quiet one of our little team. She talks about herself and I grin and bear it, but at the same time I would feel so sad if she ever stopped chattering non-stop to me. Sometimes I feel that maybe we're not really friends anymore, but then something happens and I realize that yes, we are friends.

    So, with that in mind, I'd say it sounds like your friendship may have come to a bumpy part in the road, but I wouldn't say that road has ended. Just be sure to remember that friendships are two-way - maybe let her talk about herself a little, stop pointing out flaws and give praise to a talent or her outfit, whatever it is.

    If you believe too strongly that your friendship is on its last leg, it may become a self-fulfilling prophecy . . . so just believe that there's still something there, and there will be.

    Keep smiling and laughing together. :) It'll turn out.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    Your A meanie!

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