I think i'm turning into my father? iin?

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My dad has always been very violent and emotionally abusive. And recently I've noticed I've been acting this way to my mom. And it really hurts me because I don't mean to say mean things to her I just get so angry. And I get so scared because I don't want to be like my dad. I can't take back anything I said and I would never want to hurt my mom or see her cry.
And it's not like I just come home and start yelling at her. But it's usually when we get into big arguments and then I get really mean calling her any name in the book and just doing low blows.
And recently I can't control my urge to yell back at anyone. I get so heated I have to walk away. I was never like this ever and it's really scaring me! Do you guys think this behavior is genetic? Or is it normal to overreact like this sometimes.. ?

** Also I should add I have NEVER hit my mother or anything like that. Just basically yell and scream. But I'm scared that I might turn into my dad who does do those things. ):

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Based on 13 votes (10 yes)
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  • sugartits
    8 years ago

    try having sex with her

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      Wtf is wrong with you, you fucking weirdo?!

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  • modernism
    8 years ago

    The fact that you're aware is a step forward.

    But the fact that you can't control your actions is a step backwards. Like thegypsysailor said, try therapy. This would be better then just brushing the whole situation off and then next thing you know you're just as a clone of your father.

    It's better to contain the situation early before it gets out of hand.

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  • thegypsysailor
    8 years ago

    If you are unable to control even what comes out of your mouth, then you are in serious trouble.
    Time to find a therapist or someone to help you, because these are NOT the actions of an adult.

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  • Ellenna
    8 years ago

    I voted yes, because if you've grown up with the example of a violent father it would be normal both to copy that behaviour and to be afraid you'll get as bad as him.

    The fact that you know you're verbally abusing your mum and that you've written her proves to me that you have the will to not be like your father. I'd suggest you get into into an Anger Management Group as soon as you can before you find yourself escalating into physical violence.

    I'm not criticising or blaming your mother for one moment, but if she's lived with a violent husband for years she's learned ways
    of coping which may be making it easier for you to verbally abuse her. Can you talk to her about this situation? I'll bet she's afraid she's going to be living with two violent men and you may find that bringing it out into the open & giving her some reassurance that you do care about her will ease any fear she has of you and also help you to stop indulging in behaviour you later regret.

    You have a clear choice about what sort of man you want to be and good on you for acknowledging your behavior and wanting to change it: the world needs more men brave enough to do this

    agement grou

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      sorry forgot to say they are divorced. They got divorced when I was a toddler.

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      • Ellenna
        8 years ago

        Well that renders some of my response totally irrelevant, but I still suggest you talk to your mother about how you're feeling and that you get yourself some therapy or find an Anger Management Group before you do something you'll really regret

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