I think i just realized why some depressed people anger me so much.

I hate the kind of people who dismiss all people's problems as being something they have control over and that it's always one's own fault. The same kind that claims suicide is never an option.

It can be extremely difficult to help yourself when you're severely depressed. Granted, there will be people that do wallow in their self-pity and depression, that are only 'happy' when they're miserable. Stay away, they suck the life out of you. There are also people who are completely miserable but try hard to fight it and don't ask for anything. I'm just making the point that it's kind of the nature of depression that can make it next to impossible for people to help themselves.

Not all people who wallow in self pity have depression. That's an ignorant thing to assume. I have depression but I don't throw myself pity parties or want any kind of special attention.

Everyone knows that people have all had varying degrees of sadness and depression, no one is questioning that or lessening its value. I believe what the OP is simply saying is that when listening and trying to lend an ear to some depressing people, they would rather keep complaining and not try to work on their sadness instead of trying to do something to fix it. Yes, we don't know what caused the sadness and we can't always fix the problem like that, nor is it even about fixing. But for the listener, nothing is worse than someone who always complains, blocks out any good words or thoughts about themselves and generally brings you down every time you talk to them. A listener needs a piece of mind too and lending an ear here and there is okay but having to listen to the same vent 24/7 will make someone think "Oh great, here they come again" instead of "Oh hey its them, what are they up to?".

I think I can partially understand where you're coming from but that's also because I don't like depressed people to. Or rather I don't like the depressed people that I've dealt with. In your case you describe ones that don't do anything, they just wallow in their own self pity and do nothing to cheer themselves up. That's understandable to dislike a person like that. For me personally, the people I've dealt with are always angry, they're never really sad, they're just angry that you're not "helping" them when in actuality you are reaching out, it's just that they don't want to help themselves. I would be glad to hear your story and help cheer yourself up, but not if you're going to keep getting mad at me because I can't "understand" you. I make an effort to try and understand. I'm not trying to hurt anyone, I've dealt with depression before, and I know what it's like to have certain expectations of how people should behave towards you, but I don't think you should be angry. If you want someone to help you, you should at least learn to let someone into your world.

I think it's great that you realize your problems aren't that special or rather that it's common. But that last part of your post makes no sense to me. Care to explain?

Some people just need the attention.
I think a lot of people who talk about their misery don't want to be helped, they just want to be heard. They vent. I don't judge - It can be very healthy. However, all you can help in these conversations is just listening and nodding.
You sound like a nice guy who just wants to make people happy. But unless they specificly ask you what they should do in a specific situation, you can't help. It will only bring you down.

Get over yourself.

I understand your point but I think sometimes depressed people don't realize how they affect others. They just want help or company and they actually repulse everyone because of how miserable they are. But as I said, sometimes they don't know and they deserve a chance. Of course there are different cases and some of which you must be right about. I think that way because when I was depressed I didn't realized I was. I know I was feeling terrible and I was overwhelmed by sadness but I couldn't see what it did to people who cared like my best friend. Now I can see how i was and all the things I did that affected them.
I also wish more people weren't afraid to live and to love too.

Of course. Those types are usually attention seekers whether they can admit it or not. Most people with depression as a neurological disorder would rather hide it, because there isn't realy anything to say about it but blamed on a defective mind(not offense because I have it.. But it's not really "bad things happen to me life suck" it just there. I love life but I can't help the constant shitty mind)
The middle of your post seems a little dramatic though... It's sounds nice of you to want to help but why do you think so much responsibility would fall to you? Unless I've misunderstood.

You can't be so black and white about depression and other mental illnesses. I use to think very similar about depressed people until I realized how outside influences can change a seemingly strong man and crush him into a fragment of what he once was. I have seen a lot of guys come home and often stare off into space for long periods of time while having flashbacks of what they had done. You can't always jump the gun when it comes to judging people with these types of issues. It is ignorant.