I think i have feelings for someone in another country online iin

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I think I have a crush on my female online friend - She's in another country.
Known her online for abt 4 yrs Ish on and off. So anyhow, I tried to tell her I sent a voice message! Saying I'm nervous and want to tell u something . Anyhow, I said I think I may have .. Stammered...some... Some feelings for you- She's like why so stressed? XD I like u, I think u are coool she said, Hopefully we can meet 1 day!! Her native tongue is Tunisian (Aka French ) English second language.
Does she know what I mean ? 2 years ago I told her she reminded me of my past crush .... So I'm sure she gets the idea - Does she get me? I once told her she reminded me of my past crush and now I'm saying I'm nervous to say I think I have some feelings, so how can that not indicate I have romantic feelings? So I spoke to her yesterday and she hasnt spoken to me today ..which is okay but I'm wondering maybe

She doesn't know what I meant 🤦‍♂️
Alternatively if she knowws..isn't it a bad sign shes not talking...

I know a lesbian couple and they met online,one was in another country and they skyped, chatted every day apparently.
So I'm thinking why cabt I find this? 🤦‍♂️😪

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[Old Memory]

3 years ago

Hey so another point from our last conversation, you shouldn't try to convince people they're in a relationship with you

Like you said, your sister found someone and it worked. If they like you you'll know it, you won't have to awkwardly ask if they want to make it official

Most of the time people fall into a relationship, they don't agree to date and see how it goes

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  3 years ago
  
  Quote " . Anyhow, I said I think I may have .. Stammered...some... Some feelings for you- She's like why so stressed"
  
  Wake up you retard who cant comprehend English with an intellect of a 5 year old!
  
  KEY WORD MAY
  
  Shame on you I just proved you're the fuking idiot 🤣🤣🖕
  
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  - [Old Memory]
    
    3 years ago
    
    Yes you just *have* to contact the girl who you haven't talked to in a really long time and tell her you *may* have feelings, but of course if those feelings weren't strong then why bother? You're almost like a predator
    
    What about deleting the other comments? I think that proves I touched a nerve and that you can't handle the truth
    
    As I said said before, can you contribute anything else besides these defense mechanisms?
    
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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  3 years ago
  
  Sorry what last convo? When did I say I'm trying to convince her to be with me lmao XD
  Clearly you have not read my text properly or have misinterpreted.
  I clearly stated that I told her I think I have feelings for her as I feel a connection but not once did I say in my post or to her to be in a relationship nor did I ask her to date.
  As for my sister that's an entirely different story and post plus she sook out a relationship with a guy so it's easy ofc for her as men are easy.
  No, not most of the people "fall into a relationship ", where the heck do u get that idea? Most people date someone or date around and if gues well, they continue to date until they decide to make it official.
  
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  - [Old Memory]
    
    3 years ago
    
    I really like how you're pretending not to be the same person while at the same time admitting details that only she would know
    
    Read the top half of what you wrote and try to tell me again you didn't try making it official
    
    These posts are getting annoying, especially since you've been given so much good advice but seem to enjoy wallowing in this pit you've dug for yourself
    
    Stop finding people to obsess over. It's really unhealthy and quite a slippery slope
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      3 years ago
      
      Nope, you definitely need to learn English mate. I have not once stated I'm trying to make something official. I wish you luck in the future with your English though
      
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      - [Old Memory]
        
        3 years ago
        
        And I wish you luck with your mental deficits, karma can be cruel
        
        I hope you deleted the subsequent comments out of realizing my point
        
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olderdude-xx

3 years ago

Does she know what you mean....

Having met and married a Lady from Eastern Europe... and I live in the USA. I have a really good idea how this works out as far as understanding each other.

Good news) She will understand that you are indeed interested in her and have a crush on her.

Potential Problem 1) I imagine that you are using Google Translate or one of the other translation programs. Neither of you will understand just how much those programs get wrong. Both my wife and I found that we thought we had agreements on a variety of things... only to learn later that we personally agreed to something different than what the other person agreed too. We laugh now on how bad Google Translate was and the misunderstandings created from it. But, we are the lucky ones that worked through those - and many relationships don't survive these misunderstandings created by the translation programs.

Potential Problem 2) If you are in a country geographically far away from her - she has no real idea how your country works and its culture. My wife never could have imagined the culture of the United States ever... The way she describes the change is that its not just moving somewhere else on the plant - its like moving to another universe. It will likely be a major culture shock if you get together (or if you move to her country); and not all relationships survive that shock.

By in large my wife has found many things about the United States to be very good... she has found other things to be horribly bad. She is still learning about things in the USA, and can still be shocked about how things work here (as an example: Last week we watched "All The President's Men" about the news reporters who followed and broke the Watergate story through the resignation of President Nixon for his involvement. She is still talking about how is it that the reporters were not quickly killed by the group behind the breaking and cover-up. That people would even talk to the reporters (which would likely get you killed in her country).

So in conclusion... While she likely understands your romantic interest. She does not understand a variety of things you have told her; and you don't understand things she has told you.

It does seem that she may not be interested in you likely because of those misunderstandings, or that she wishes to keep her serious searches local.

I do however, wish you well in your pursuits... :)

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  3 years ago
  
  How the fuck can the following make any sense to what I wrote in my post?
  
  I really like how you're pretending not to be the same person while at the same time admitting details that only she would know"
  
  "Read the top half of what you wrote and try to tell me again you didn't try making it official
  
  These posts are getting annoying, especially since you've been given so much good advice but seem to enjoy wallowing in this pit you've dug for yourself
  
  Stop finding people to obsess over. It's really unhealthy and quite a slippery slope"
  
  You read my post, did I state anywhere in there I was teying to make a relationship official with this women I said I MAY have feelings for 🤣🤣🤣
  
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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  3 years ago
  
  Looks like my last message didnt send!!
  What does the following mean
  
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  So in conclusion... While she likely understands your romantic interest. She does not understand a variety of things you have told her; and you don't understand things she has told you"
  
  I felt he and mine communication skills have been quite good tbh, she seems to understand most things except for the odd big word. English is her 2nd language...also she said I like you too and think u are really cool, hopefully we meet at some stage in life".
  Isnt this response saying she feels the same ?
  
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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  3 years ago
  
  Hey
  
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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  3 years ago
  
  Thanks very much for your elaborate explanation!! She's always wanted to come to nz just her exams, study are always an issue fir stress and shed need to save money.
  
  "She does not understand a variety of things you have told her; and you don't understand things she has told you."
  
  Do you mean previous conversations I have had with her? I felt she understood a lot and if she didnt, she'd ask
  
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  - Anonymous Post Author
    
    3 years ago
    
    Oh btw no we dont need Google translate!! Shes great at talking just doesnt understand big words!!
    Sadly she hasn't spoken to me today or yesterday, I was hoping telling her I feel something would prompt her in keeping in touch more. The 2 lesbian women, one was in Texas, the other nz. They skyped and text daily for 9 months I think, then one flew to Nz.
    They're not together.
    So I'm thinking this could work with this girl?
    
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    - olderdude-xx
      
      3 years ago
      
      Please understand that even if she knows basic english... that she may have different meanings for the same word. Each country and culture is different. This can even occur within the same country Example: I grew up in the united states drinking from bubblers. Many people in other parts of the US grew up drinking from fountains. To me a fountain is that statue - or feature - in the park squiring water, usually with a pool around it: why someone drank from that pool was beyond me when I first hear of people looking for a fountain to get a drink of water).
      
      The differences can be subtle. However, you are both coming to different conclusions on because you apply different meanings to the same word.
      
      Since she cannot use a lot of "large" English words... advanced or deep concepts cannot be adequately expressed. Trust me on this.
      
      That does not mean you should not try... but, you need to be careful too - and check meanings as best you can. As I said above... My wife and I laugh now at all the misunderstandings we had, and we still find new ones 9 years later.
      
      Go fourth and have fun now...
      
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      - Anonymous Post Author
        
        3 years ago
        
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      - Anonymous Post Author
        
        3 years ago
        
        Hey the moron above thinks I was trying to solidify a relationship with her lol. Did I say that in my post?
        
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dirtybirdy

3 years ago

Ok to me. I've always liked the Tasmanian devil.

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- PleaseTalkToMe
  
  3 years ago
  
  XD
  
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Aethylfritha

3 years ago

Yes. It happened to me years ago with a fellow youtuber.
Funny thing if he were here i wouldnt be interested but being far away was part of the appeal. It was an intellectual attraction not physical( in my case).

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  3 years ago
  
  Interesting
  
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Somenormie

3 years ago

Yes that is totally normal it means you want to connect more to her.

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