I think i got drugged and raped, not sure. iin?

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I was out with 2 acquaintances, we went to a restaurant, I got my food and a glass of wine. I remember taking a couple bites of food and a couple sips of the wine and then I have absolutely no memories after that up until a point where I was vomiting, but I don't know where I was when I was vomiting, all I remember is definitely throwing up somewhere at some point. Then more blankness, and then I am walking down a side street that I don't know, alone, I must have looked confused because I encountered some people I didn't know who were walking home and they stopped and asked me if I needed help. They called me a cab. The cab came, I was able to get in and tell the driver my address and then after I was in the cab for a few minutes I felt semi-normal again-I felt drunk sort of, like not really in control but I was managing. At that point I still didn't really realize that I had blacked out, I wasn't suspicious or anything, I was still under a haze and it hadn't clicked with me that something wasn't right and that I had missed a chunk of time. I got home and fell right asleep. It wasn't until I woke up the next morning that I realized something was way wrong about that night.

I felt embarrassed. I had no idea what happened plus I felt so stupid so I wasn't going to call the police or anything.

I never saw these 2 men again, either. I used to see them fairly regularly when I was out but no one has seen them since.

Obviously this probably isn't a normal occurrence, I'm just wondering if this has happened to anyone else here and if so, can you share your story?

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  • pappusharma
    11 years ago

    Hey are you ok now? Go see a doctor and do a check-up. this might help your case, if you feel doubtful police can surely help.

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  • shuggy-chan
    11 years ago

    Idk, but this sorta pissed me off, hope ur doing oky now

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  • shade_ilmaendu
    11 years ago

    This made me incredibly angry. You should call the police (I know this sounds disgusting but don't shower yet if you haven't already) tell them you think you were drugged at dinner last night and ask them to do a rape kit on you.

    If you need someone to talk to, I can do that too. I've been through some shit in my life, and if there's anything at all I can do to help I'd be more than happy to.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      This happened just about 1 year ago, so unfortunately any physical evidence that might have existed is long gone.

      I didn't go to the police because I was so embarrassed, and I didn't know (still don't know) IF anything happened. It seems highly likely but since I don't know for sure I don't feel like I deserve to use up law enforcement's time. I feel wrong accusing someone when I have no memory. It's hard to explain. I don't feel like a legitimate victim since I have no memory and can't be 100% certain anything happened. I shouldn't feel undeserving of an investigation, and I shouldn't feel wrong for accusing someone when it seems so likely but I absolutely DO feel that way. I should feel angry but I don't.

      All I really want is to know what happened but I'll never know. That's what bothers me most. I've had some awful things happen to me before and I know I'm a strong person and can overcome anything, but not knowing is killing me. I am having a hard time accepting that I'll never know. It's hindering me from being able to leave this behind.

      Thanks for caring about a complete stranger, it means a lot and if I might take you up on your offer to talk in private. I'm not really one to talk much so I'm not sure if or when I might want to but I'll definitely keep it in mind.

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  • kelili
    11 years ago

    That is so bad. Things like that happens more often than people seem to think. I have a friend who was raped on Christmas eve and she was at her grandma's place. That motherfucker raped her while she was drunk but she remembered things when she woke up and she was bleeding. She called me and I jumped in the first bus, stopped in a pharmacy, got in a taxi and arrived there. The guy was still hanging around the house (he lived there). When she told her grandmother that bitch said, "I thought it was something more serious." I still hate her for those words. She didn't want to tell her mother and I begged her to until she did it. She never called the police. That was an horrible day.

    You should at least have seen a doctor.

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  • VioletTrees
    11 years ago

    There are a couple comments here telling you what you should have done (eg "you should have called the police" or "you should have gone to the hospital"). I'm not criticising the people who posted those comments. However, I want to say that you shouldn't feel guilty for the way you handled that. It's a horrible, frightening thing to deal with, and you weren't obligated to call the police or collect evidence.

    I'm very sorry that happened to you. If you need help, don't hesitate to talk to someone (I'm not in a good position to help with this particular situation right now, but shade_ilmaendu has offered). You're important, and you deserve to be happy and well.

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