I think i am straight but i'm also a lesbian? not bi

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I am 20, going 21 this year and I am a female. I'm a girl look like a boy type. Plus, I am asian so I really do look like a boy. Like what people call as "tomboy" or dyke I guess.. I don't know. But you get the idea.

I always think I am a boy since I was born, since I was thaaaaat little. It feels I am stuck in a girl's body. I always like girls as my interest (for relationship) never boys. This is why I think I am straight but people will see it as lesbians. I'm not fond with girly girls that are so into each others (hope you get what I mean). So... I don't know. I hope I'm not the only one.

People always humiliate me for my appearance and my boyish attitudes. It makes me low self-esteem about myself and no confidence at all. You can say that my country is quite religious. Life is so hard for me to live right now.

Due to that matters, I have less friends, never been into a relationship, I rarely go out of home. It feels so lonely. I really do want some friends or even best friends for life and a girlfriend..

I don't know. I'm sure this is a level way than a normal level do. If you have anything to say or solutions, anything, please kindly say it in the post. I'd appreciate it.

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  • Cherrim
    8 years ago

    You definitely sound trans, specifically ftm and a straight one. A trans woman who likes other women would be classified as a lesbian, whereas a trans man who likes other men would be identified as gay. But you like women, so you would be considered a straight man.

    Being trans myself, I can commiserate with you so much as anti-trans attitudes are so widespread everywhere. We don't have laws protecting us from discrimination an accordingly we face discrimination in all areas of life. I hate being immured in the gender binary that erases people like me .

    The best thing you can do now is to work on being passable as a man. You know as well as I do that you're a man, but the priority now is working on your presentation to enable other people to see you for the man you are.Deepening your voice should be your number one priority, with physical things like packing, binding, and dressing manly being the next thing on the agenda. If you don't have a manly voice then it'll be a dead giveaway that you're trans, and that's why getting the right voice is at the top of the list of priorities.

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  • Cherrim
    8 years ago

    @: VinnyB: It's kind of haughty of you to insult her post seeing as she's not an American and thus English isn't her first language so obviously her English isn't going to be up to par with yours. Gleaning what she's asking isn't that hard at all, and for a foreigner this isn't poorly written at all.

    @ The op: It does sound like you're trans, specifically ftm and a straight one. A transgender woman who is born male but becomes a woman, likes women sexually, is a lesbian, whereas a transman who likes other men is considered gay. But you identify as a straight transman, seeing as you're into women.

    Being trans myself, I can tell you that it's hard everywhere, even in the USA where there are no laws to protect us from discrimination in all areas of life. When I began presenting as the gender opposite of what I was perceived to be, I went through the same thing. I understand your frustration because I was once immured in the gender binary that erases people like me.

    All I can say is that you have to learn how to be passable because that means there will be less people who judge you. It's a daunting task, but I'm sure you can do it. The first thing you should work on is deepening your voice and learning how to dress and looking like a man. I don't know if you have access to hormones, but you should work on getting diagnosed as trans so that you can get access to them, but in the meantime you should get a binder to help with your presentation as a man.

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    • VinnyB
      8 years ago

      With all due respect, I think you are the one being haughty. I was not insulting her post in any way, I was stating a fact. The post is written in such a way that it is difficult to understand her meaning, and so I was unsure if I was gathering the meaning correctly. Based on other comments, including the one I was responding to, I clearly was not the only person that had difficulty understanding it.

      The fact that the OP may not speak English as their first language, which I think too but we actually don't really know that, doesn't really change that fact. If the meaning of the post is unclear because it is poorly written, people will misunderstand it as a result, which many did. The reason it is poorly written doesn't magically make it easier to understand. When I am responding with facts that are not specifically stated, but assumed by me based on the information given, I am allowed to say that I am unsure of my assumptions and why. But thank you for being so judgemental and assuming that I was trying to be mean, it says a lot about you as a person.

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  • Arm0se
    8 years ago

    "I am straight but I'm also a lesbian" You know what bisexual means right? "Bi" means two. You are sexually attracted to boys and girls; two. Bisexual. Weather or not you prefer one over the other, you still like both.

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    • VinnyB
      8 years ago

      She says that she isn't into boys, so she is not bisexual. I think, and it's so poorly written it's hard to be sure, but I think she is saying that she thinks she may be transgender and really a man. So her confusion is if she is female, and therefore a lesbian for liking girls, or is she really a man, and therefore her attraction to females is straight. It's a question about gender identity and not bisexuality, but I'm am not sure the OP even understands this enough to properly ask the question.

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  • flyingnostalgia
    8 years ago

    It seem to me that you are straight. you like girl as you say... i think you are afraid of boys or havent had much contact with them thats way you think you like girls. You are avoiding reality! what i get from when you write "like girls" is a form of lust...a sickness which is very much found every where in these days and age. LOve is something else...and that is what you dont do, and that is ok, and hence you are straight. in other words...everyone can like someone in "that" way, and so do perverts.

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