I tend to form unhealthy attachments with things i can't have

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I often see someone or something that I know I can't have and begin to covet it. It is usually an animal, but occasionally its a person. An example of this is that currently I am obsessed with my best friends Siberian Husky. When I get these obsessions I become outwardly hostile towards anyone who gets between me and what I am coveting. Currently I get this way whenever I see my friend playing with her dog, I become jealous, to the point of imagining horrible things happening to her, then when I lose sight of the situation, I don't even know why I was so obsessed. I don't want this to lead to losing a friend, but I just can't let it go. Every time I see her dog getting attention from someone besides me my blood just boils with anger and hate, is this normal?

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  • seankessinger
    11 years ago

    It's human nature to want things we can't have. It's what made the rapid evolution of humans possible. However, thinking of hurting someone to satisfy your own wants isn't cool. You need to learn to be more grateful for what you already got.

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  • alv1592
    11 years ago

    The Siberian Husky made me smile a little. I'm not making fun of you, I just like huskies and I get attached to animals too, even if they're not mine. But I have pets of my own so I don't get jealous. I can relate to an extent though. I get easily jealous, usually when a guy I like talks to another girl (and once when my ex-crush had a celebrity obsession but it's in the past). Also if someone calls my best friend their "best friend." And when my Zumba instructor and my friend are being friendly with each other, cause I fear she favours her. But she's a nice girl and I couldn't get mad at her.

    Anyway...it's normal that you like that dog so much, but not that you get mad at your friend. It is HER dog; at least be glad you get to spend time with the dog and he/she likes you. I agree w/ Avant-Garde, talking to a therapist might help.

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  • Avant-Garde
    11 years ago

    No. I really think you should see a therapist before this starts to get more out of hand.

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  • RoseIsabella
    11 years ago

    Have you ever had a dog of your own?

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    • kayathewolf
      11 years ago

      I would, but I can't afford one, I would also have to resist certain temptations I have.

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      • RoseIsabella
        11 years ago

        Hmm... I don't know what these so called temptations are but something tells me they're not good news.

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        • kayathewolf
          11 years ago

          I suppose the closest I have come to having my own dog would be a stray that used to live in my neighborhood, I couldn't keep him, but I fed him whenever I could, he was my closest friend, but he got run over by a car. Eventually I tracked down the owner of the car, then I spread rumors and lied to his wife saying he cheated on her. This ended with a messy divorce and him losing custody of his kids, he now lives on the street as a depressed alcoholic. Basically, he took something precious away from me, so I ruined his entire life. I feel no guilt about this, it was the right thing to do.

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  • Terence_the_viking
    11 years ago

    Oof what a hard life you have.

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  • Short4Words
    11 years ago

    Do you feel it is because had a special bond with these animals and people in the first place? Or is the bond only your obsession?

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    • kayathewolf
      11 years ago

      Well... I do love dogs, and sometimes I feel that I want to be a dog, since there is no law against a dog loving another dog, but the obsession is so strong that it borders on homicidal rage towards anyone receiving more attention from the dog than me.

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