I tend to feel sad when i get too happy?

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People have always called me things like "Eeyore" because I have a pretty serious and calm demeanor. I'm not actually sad or depressed most of the time, I'm just not talkative and I don't really smile as much as other people.

I've been in college for a few years, and now a lot of my friends are going away, so I've decided to start working a little bit harder at being sociable and friendly to other people, because it's no fun being in college if you don't have anyone to hang out with! If I work hard at it, I can fit in all of my classes and both jobs, and try to build my relationships with classmates and coworkers, and it's pretty fun.

Here's the weird part though. It seems like if I get too happy or am happy for too long in a single day, I get this weird feeling that I can only really describe as nostalgic sadness. It typically happens when I'm alone for a little while. I start to miss my friends and family, even if they haven't left town, and think about "the good old days" and stuff like that. Music becomes a pretty interesting experience; even happy songs might cause me to tear up. It's not a completely unpleasant experience, but I'd much rather just remain happy. I get very quiet, and this makes it pretty hard to be friendly and sociable.

I've had this "problem" if that's what it is for as long as I remember. Even as a kid I hated my birthdays because I was perfectly content to stay the age I was at previously. Is this normal? Anyone have any advice to help ease this? It's not a huge or pressing issue but it is a little annoying when you're trying to have a good time.

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  • Tommythecat.
    10 years ago

    I'm never able to get too happy sadly.

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  • thegypsysailor
    10 years ago

    How absolutely tragic to not be able enjoy the pleasant times in life. As you all have mentioned, the shit comes along aplenty.
    Perhaps it's spending my teens under the threat of nuclear annihilation, that has forced me to grab the brass ring and revel in the good times. Living in the here and now may not be the norm, but it certainly does make for a better life. It's NOT a sin to enjoy what you can in life.

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  • RoseIsabella
    10 years ago

    I get like that too. It's like I'm waiting for the other proverbial shoe to drop. When I'm too happy with how my life is going I start to feel very vulnerable and exposed.

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  • Karmasbitch
    10 years ago

    I think this is more normal than it seems. When I get too happy, I start to think about how things never stay the same and how my happiness is only temporary and will soon be replaced with anger, sadness disappointment, among other things, that I may or may not have control of.
    I feel that there is no point to be happy when I know it won't last.
    It only gets my hopes up for a good future when in reality things never go as planned.
    A really pessimistic view, I know.. But to me it's true.
    What goes up, must come down.

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  • imadragon
    10 years ago

    Seems like you are afraid of happiness, I feel the same..

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