I take the dating advice and it doesnt work

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For as long as I can remember now, all i ever read and heard from others is to not worry about getting the girl. Supposedly if I just do my thing and be me and dont worry too much, then things will work out and the girl will appear eventually.

Well, here i am almost 30, i do my own thing, focus on myself and......... Nothing happens. Big fat zero. Still never had a girlfriend.

So basically when I actively seek girls, it doesn't work. And when I don't actively seek girls, that doesn't work either.

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  • Tealights
    8 years ago

    It depends.

    For example, when people say, "Time heals all wounds," they don't expect you to just sit and wait. During that time, you accept your mistakes somehow, understand your limitations, and basically become self-aware, as well as experience personal growth.

    So when people say, "Just be yourself and do your own thing," it's not meant to attract women, that's just a bonus. It means to just forget about dating, enjoy life, and confidently be yourself with no fucks given. Meet people and see them as people, and not potential dates who just happen to come by while you were, "being yourself." Talk to women to genuinely be their friend and get to know them, not to find a mate. Don't focus so hard on, "I'll die all alone!!!" and change that to, "I don't need a relationship to enjoy life."

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  • bucho's_butt
    8 years ago

    Wow, I could've written this post myself. People have always told me don't worry about finding the right girl, she'll find you. What a bunch of bullshit. And to one of the users above. I for one am not a fat slob. I work a back breaking job that puts me in top shape, have a nice car, and a fully functioning babe lair. Me and I'm pretty sure the OP have an intense fear of rejection. That's all it is. If that gets broken through I'm sure people like us could have the life we want. Face your fear.

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    • 53739
      8 years ago

      It's simply that in a feminist Western society, all females have to do is look pretty while males take on the risk of rejection, possible social humiliation, and depression, on top of having to impress the opposite gender in a variety of ways.

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  • thegypsysailor
    8 years ago

    My advice is to do activities you enjoy and find a group or organization that people join to do those activities. That makes it easy to make friends with others who share your interests. Female friends often become lovers, when you have things in common.

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    • bucho's_butt
      8 years ago

      OP don't listen to this guy. The last thing you need to do is go out and find female friends. That will only make you more depressed. Most of the time if you make friends with a woman, it will NOT evolve into a sexual relationship. You'll be stuck.

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    • Steve2.1
      8 years ago

      I found my first girlfriend, 42 years my junior, through a science class in high school.

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      • thegypsysailor
        8 years ago

        So she hatched out of an egg and bonded on you, because you were the first living creature she saw?
        Why you cradle robber you; at least mine was an adult when we met.

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  • LittleGirlAtrociouslySodomized
    8 years ago

    If you are a disgusting looking FAT human being that doesn't keep yourself up you may have a problem. People say a lot of shit they hear from other people that they heard from the TV and vomit that shit out without thinking twice and now you are 30 and can't get laid, sounds about right?

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    • shawnd14
      8 years ago

      i am not fat

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      • LittleGirlAtrociouslySodomized
        8 years ago

        I want you to go to Google and type in "neomasculinity" read into it and see how far the rabbit hole goes.

        Fuck everyone else's advise on this site, they don't get laid. Trust me, do it NOW and don't come back.

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        • bucho's_butt
          8 years ago

          I'm not the OP, but I might as well be. As always, you give insightful advice. What a fascinating set of articles that term brought about.

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