I still have feelings for this girl

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So around seven months ago I lost my virginity to this girl that I was friends with and had a pretty big crush on. We just sort of hooked up, and I have to say it was memorable experience. The next few weeks she was texting me constantly and I really began to think we were going to become a couple. Then about 3 weeks after we hooked up, my best friend got a drunken call from her asking to come over to her dorm have sex. My friend rejected her.

I confronted her about this and at first she denied it, before confessing. She apologized, and admitted that she liked both of us, but wasn't ready to have a boyfriend in college. She said that she was down to hook up with me again. I figured that she wasn't girlfriend material, but I still wanted to have sex with her, so having a friends with benefits relationship made sense. That was a big mistake on my part. Shortly after we agreed to be just friend with benefits she met some other guy to "go exclusive" with. I was bummed out, but spent the last five months in the friend zone with her.

Now she recently just got a new boyfriend. This is totally a new guy, and again I feel like crap. I'm a smart, nice, reasonably good looking guy, and in my head I know she isn't worth my time. Yet I'm still hung up on her. For whatever reason I just love being around her, and I want to spend all my time with her. I think its because I'm very insecure about the fact that I'm almost 21 and have never had a girlfriend. How do I just let her go? And is it normal that I still like this girl who I know I'm better off not being with?

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  • Shroot
    9 years ago

    Dude are you me?

    You're not alone if that's any consolation... I'm deep in the friend zone too.

    Tbh the best way to get over her is to talk to other girls, and maybe you'll like one of them!

    Good luck

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    • shuggy-chan
      9 years ago

      bro you have to just realize it might be that you more want "what you cant have" or the "idea of dating her"

      My best advice it try to ween off her a bit, like say with another lady friend, then see what happens down the line

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      • patsox123
        9 years ago

        I'm pretty sure your right. I'm just still really jealous for some reason.

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    • thatguywhosthere
      9 years ago

      let go of her...please.. take it from experiqnce. dont go that way. find another one out there

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      • patsox123
        9 years ago

        I know. I really want to just forget about her. t's just hard to it.

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    • thatguywhosthere
      9 years ago

      i have had the same way to lose it. ive lost my V the same way. except we went exclusive. then after i realised she cheated on me multiple times. dont date girls like that. she can ride that but there are other girls who can ride btter

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  • thegypsysailor
    9 years ago

    The best way to forget an ex is with somebody, or lots of somebodies, new. You aren't hurting her by sitting home alone and pining for someone who has obviously moved on. Stop thinking about this girl and go get laid.

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  • Sog
    9 years ago

    There are so many other girls out there! God damn it! Don't let this slut waste your time. She's garbage. You're better than this.

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  • KeepsakeDoll
    9 years ago

    People want things they can't have even more. Find someone else, you'll be better off and happier when you do find them. Also, you're probably just her back up toy.

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  • Pika-girl
    9 years ago

    I'm so much like you, but what I do is:

    Touch him, you DIE, girlie! *grabs a knife* Stab stab stabbity stab! *looks up and smiles*

    But for now, just look for someone else! Just be thankful that you met her and became close friends! Just stick to whatever you have. If you get a chance, go for it!

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  • Merica7460
    9 years ago

    Man the fuck up bro. Seriously. If you tell this girl she's a cunt and stick up for yourself, a battle might ensue but you will earn her respect. She doesn't see you as a protector... or whatever... i cant think of a better word but you need to be a man bro. Girls want MEN not scavengers waiting for leftovers.

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    • Merica7460
      9 years ago

      This is seriously lightyears ahead of the other advice here. Don't pass over it like I don't know what I'm talking about. Hope this helps, seriously, I like when the underdogs blast the fuck up and own shit.

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      • jeebley
        9 years ago

        "Tell her she's a cunt".... Nah, weak advice. Starting an argument or whining at the girl for rejecting him... not manly!! lol

        I do see where you're coming from, but personally I think either mentally get completely over her, and stay friends if you want. Or don't remain friends if it's easier to move on. But don't turn it into resentment... that's ugly.

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  • EccentricWeird
    9 years ago

    (Note: If some girl/boy just broke your heart, or you're insecure about your penis size, then trust us, it's normal. Please do not ask again.)

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  • Shackleford96
    9 years ago

    Sounds like she's keeping you as a backup...

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