I still feel guilty about everything...

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I fell away from my religion about 2 years ago when I was 16, but I still can't stop feeling guilty about doing anything that's regarded by the Church as a sin. I know on an intellectual level that it's not true, but I can't really disconnect myself from believing in it emotionally, if you know what I mean. I thought it would go away pretty soon after I stopped being a Catholic, but it seems to have gotten worse.
It's not like I hold other people to the standards I set myself either: I can't masturbate because I feel so bad about it afterwards, but it doesn't bother me if I know other people do it. I don't mind any of my friends being gay or bi, but when I have feelings for other guys it makes me feel like shit.
I was just wondering if anyone else feels the same, and if there's a way to stop feeling so bad about everything?

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  • Malik
    15 years ago

    Well, I'm not Christian or gay (which by the sounds of it, you might be?) so I'm probably not the best qualified to answer... BUT I'm going to try anyway
    The best way to get over your guilt is probably just to expose yourself to the things that make you feel guilty so you desensitize yourself to them: so masturbate more, maybe find a guy to experiment with. If it's very bad you could see a shrink, there's nothing wrong with asking for help if it's distrupting your life.
    Do you still go to Church and have just stopped believing it, or have you stopped attending?

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    • buriedalive
      15 years ago

      Thank you for the advice : ) No, I don't go to Mass, it seemed hypocritical to go when I stopped believing.

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      • Malik
        15 years ago

        That's good, you should also try to avoid fanatically religious people until you're over this guilt complex (actually, avoiding fanactically religious people is a good idea regardless of your situation). Are your family religious? I still think therapy isn't a bad idea, if you're having serious issues about how you feel.

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