I shy away from my kinks/fetishes. is it normal?

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I'm otherwise a confident individual, but whenever I'm in bed with a girl (especially a girl who I have strong feelings for), I can't bring myself to tell her my kinks/fetishes because I fear her reaction.

I'd never cheat on anyone, but I just get more and more nervous about embracing my kinks the more I genuinely love a girl, because I don't want to lose her.

Is it normal?

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Based on 37 votes (33 yes)
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  • ZREBELX
    2 years ago | pl

    Depends on the kinks.

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    • Somenormie
      2 years ago

      Agreed.

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  • fatok
    2 years ago

    I suppose it depends on your kinks? I have a fetish for armpits, none of my partners have ever been freaked out on me for it. I have a kink to be pegged and that has chased away a couple of girls.

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  • JustJazzin
    2 years ago

    I know how you feel.. I have some fetishes too and have always wanted to try them or bring them up to a girl I’m with but am too embarrassed or shy to mention it. I’ve had some girls with fetishes as well, and believe it or not, they were totally outspoken about what they were into. One girl I met a few months ago was into having her hair pulled, nipples bitten and feet/toes sucked on.. I didn’t know how to react. It threw me for a loop, that’s for sure lol

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  • darefu
    2 years ago

    Honestly those are pretty mild kinks.

    You can almost accidentally introduce a couple of them. Slipping an estem pad from an arm or neck to a nipple could test her acceptability, ice is almost normal to play with.

    Creative thinking you could Figure out how to accidentally introduce most kinks.I was thinking you had some really bad kinks like wanting to do her mother, or her ex. Now those can be a little harder to introduce. Lol.

    Try introducing them through role play, if she's open to costumes or roles then Doctor/patient and kidnapper/victim would allow you to introduce most of your kinks. You can just blame it on playing the role.

    Either way it can open the door for discussion. Of what's okay and what's not.

    Have fun!

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  • LloydAsher
    2 years ago

    Me and my girlfriend keep fencing about our fetishes. I said I'm open to everything, she says that shes open for ANYTHING. Honestly I've run out of my kinks, bottom of the kink barrel.

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    • fatok
      2 years ago

      get another person involved and expand the kink

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  • DADNSCAL
    2 years ago

    It is normal. Trust your instincts. You know your partner and what she’d accept and what she’d think is over the line.

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  • BleedingPain
    2 years ago

    Watersports are nasty, but i cant stop you from getting off to it. What ever helps you cum at night… this sounds like an issue of not knowing your partner well enough. maybe if you knew what the other person liked first, you might be more open to sharing.

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  • randypete
    2 years ago

    what is your kinks?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      2 years ago

      I have this weird fetish for women whose IQ exceeds the number of people they've slept with... I know, I know, fantasy land... Who am I kidding?

      But seriously all jokes aside my top 5 fetishes in order of how much they turn me on, are as follows:

      1. Watersports (peeing)
      2. Wax play
      3. Ice
      4. Rope Bondage
      5. E-stim (electro-stimulation)

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  • Sanara
    2 years ago

    You should both try using a webpage called mojoupgrade, that lets you see only the kinks that match so not as much risk

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