I share too much

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I suffer from bad anxiety, i always walk away from meeting someone feeling like I came across as weird and that they pity me, as well as bring fearful of crowds, intimacy etc the normal generalised and social anxiety symptoms.

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I can't help but blabber about it to people, I just can't stop myself, I guess I feel I'll come across as a freak anyway so I might as well let them know it's anxiety and not that I'm just naturally a weird person, I get too open to new people too,

I met up with someone on a job for example, an old never quite got there romance from couple of years ago, since then I feel worse, in every way, I answered the usual how are you with yeah not bad thanks you of course but then we had an hour drive, since we last met I have done nothing with my life at all but get more anxious so after she says all the new things with her, including a daughter the topic turns to what I've been up to, and inevitably I tell her how I'm doing nothing with my life and how bad my anxieties gotten etc

And if I'm meeting new people I'll be quiet, yet I can't help but spill my guts if they ask why, its like despite being anxious about what others think of me i can't help but be brutally honest and self deprecating all the time

Iin? Anyone else?

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  • Short4Words
    8 years ago

    For sure. In terms of spilling my guts. When my anxiety was bad, it was a topic of conversation for me a lot because I didn't know anything outside of it, at least, it had consumed me.

    I notice often I have nothing to say and nothing to express so to compensate I'll blabber about nothing or even things that don't make for good conversation because I'm so aware of the silence and I feel like its something wrong with me. Don't do this to yourself.

    There's more to who you are than your anxiety and you don't need to out yourself because you feel like that's the only thing to talk about. You don't owe anyone an explanation. You only owe it to yourself to be who you are, outside of the anxiety.

    God bless

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  • ohwellimcrazyanyway
    8 years ago

    I do this all of the time. Most of the time I can tell in their face their freaked out. It really sucks. If I could stop I.would. I've been on a lot of different types of medicine. I'm always going to be weird though. my mom was an addict and child abuser. There I go sharing too much again. I've learned if their going to judge me bc I'm oversharing then fuck them. It hurts my feelings at first and then I just get pissed off.Like I'm vulnerable, I just told you how vulnerable I am and your silently judging me. Fuck that. I only have three true friends and I've known them since childhood. Plus I have a husband and kids. So I don't need anyone else.

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  • wistfulmaiden
    8 years ago

    It's normal but it can actually backfire in real life. The less people know about you the better(except close trusted friends). It's easy for me to blab too but I've learned people can use it against you.
    Luckily, it's fine to anonymously post everything on line in forums like this:)

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  • RoseIsabella
    8 years ago

    Do you have a therapist?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      Nah can't afford it

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  • I'm-not-a-bitch
    8 years ago

    I had a conversation with friends but then there came an awkward silence out of nowhere. I felt the need to break off that silence due to social anxiety and then I said something like 'awkward turtle!'. They were like, O.o and looked at me.
    It made things more awkward than before. I wish I can control that strong urge. Shame on me.

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