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I'm drawn to independent people (no matter if they have friends) and want to be friends with a fellow outsider like me. I know it's deluded but I can't help but see those who are always surrounded by friends as weak - like they can't be by themselves...
Some people thrive on having a friends around them, others like being alone. It all depends on who or what you draw your energy from. While some people find it exhausting to be surrounded by friends, others find it fulfilling.
However, there are some people who have a dependency on others. These are the people that can't bear to go home and be alone at night. So, I guess they could be considered weak, but I don't really think they are. People have dependencies for different reasons. Maybe they were left alone a lot as a child, or they were abused. There are many different reasons.
When I was dependent on other people it was because I was not happy with myself. I was very self conscious and surrounded myself with people so I wasn't alone when I did things. If I was alone somewhere I just felt like people were staring at me. Fortunately, I got over this!
I know what you mean. The type of people who can't be alone without going crazy. I'd say they might be more ignorant than weak because they don't know themselves very well, but that could be considered a weakness too.
I like independent people too though, they tend to be better friends because they like you for you, not just because you boost their ego. The people with tons of "friends" can be shallow and typically piss me off with their bullshit.
There are some people, though, who don't have many friends because they are so selfish, passive-aggressive and/or arrogant that people avoid them. So, people who don't have tons of friends aren't necessarily better friends than people with many friends.
Yea I see what you're saying I guess I meant people who are happy with being independent. Like lone wolf types who choose to be that way because they typically are interesting and genuine people.
You're right about people who choose to be lone wolfs. It's usually the people who don't want to be independent but are forced to because they put other people off with their behaviour. Of course I don't mean that all people who are unhappy with not having many friends are unlikeable. A lot are just shy for example.
I have a lot of friends. I surround myself around because, duh, they're my friends and I genuinely like them. They're my friends because they're good people and we vibe together. I have a lot of friends because I know a lot of vibe-able people. Boom.
They're only weak if you know how to expose them. A few bi-lies in whisper and you can make the best of friends become the worst of enemies :p