I reject first so i'm not rejected iin

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I will always be one step ahead of someone whether it be online or irl.

For example- I had a friend who rejected me but still wanted to be "friends". Well I didn't want to risk that person not reaching out to me because I felt like they probably wouldn't make any effort so I blocked that person in case they never messaged me. It's too hurtful to risk another form of rejection so I blocked them so I gain my dignity back.

I do stuff like this but not with always blocking people, it's in other ways people probably wouldn't understand and think what I did was weird IIN

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  • fkinrude
    5 years ago

    I think it’s completely normal. You have a fear of getting rejected, so you do what you can to avoid it.

    Rejection hurts, and you don’t want to get hurt. No one wants that, but not everyone takes the actions to avoid it as they are willing to risk it in order to find relationships.

    Obviously, if you want to eventually settle down, you need to find a way to tackle this fear.

    Maybe you need to look at if your fear of rejection is linked to anything? Perhaps therapy and counselling could help with this. Or, if it doesn’t bother you, a life of Netflix and Chill and focusing on your career may not be too bad.

    Not being able to settle down would bother me, personally, but I’m not you. You need to do what’s best for you, at the end of the day.

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  • Ellenna
    5 years ago

    I used to do that a lot: if I got the idea in my head that someone was going to dump me, I'd dump them first. I wish I could go back and ask some of those people if that is in fact what they were intending, but too late now.

    If you want dignity with loneliness in isolation, continue as you are, but if you want a relationship you're going to have to take risks, just like the rest of us.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      5 years ago

      It's not always about relationships but friends too

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