I refuse to give my daughter a webcam, is it normal?

I completely understand your concerns about the dangers of the internet. But children being naïve little devils will find ways around barriers parents put up.

I would suggest you educate her on how to safely browse the internet and the importance of privacy.

There are programs and devices that would allow you some form of control on what your child can access too.

If you are still concerned, consider moving the laptop/computer into a public area of the house where she can be supervised.

I wouldn't let her have a webcam period either, that's just gross.

one minute you give them a webcam, the next, they are chatting up horny guys and doing public strip shows on stickam. I agree with your decision, and if she does end up getting the webcam, do tell her that people record those 'chat sessions' to post on the internet forever.

don't give it to her til she's older

I had the same problem with my daughter and who is 13 and we have compromised I am going to let her have a web cam when she is bit older and knows how to deal with things on the internet like the amanda todd thing .
I think you should do the same but first tell why your worried and i am sure she will reason with you :)

There's nothing wrong with giving your child a webcam. Use the parental controls on the computer and block sites or use software to monitor the internet activity. I had a webcam growing up and never showed random men my tiny boobies. My parents raised me to be smart, and not a floozy. Maybe give her the opportunity to use it to chat with her friends she knows from school, or family. Set restrictions or guidelines, maybe wait until she's a year or so older. Ultimately you as the parent will do as you see fit, but I'm just trying to provide a different perspective.

Not all teens are irresponsible.

Yes it is. I will say that my parents never let me or any of my siblings have a webcam. It is normal. Considering you let her in chat rooms she is lucky enough. A 14 year old does not need to be caming with random strangers. People who do webcaming even if they are not having sex are usually adults. So she is going to most likely be chatting with 30-20 year olds.

She will be ok of she won't be as stupid and acting like slut like Amanda did. If you raised her well and you think she's mature you can get her that webcam just be sure she doesn't do stupid shit like Amanda

U can trust her all you want but at 14 we are not mature enough to recognize the consequences of our actions. She needs mommy to protect her from her growing curiosity of the opposite sex. Which would be worse: her mad at u for not letting her have a webcam? or her being bullied, humiliated and shunned bcuz naked pictures of her started circulating the school. Wait til shes a little older. like 17.

You have to talk to her and help her to understand your concern. This is all part of creating a decent relationship and gaining trust as you guide her.

I think as long as you let her have a life, and don't make her study 24/7 you're doing a good job! :)

I would let her have a cam but tell her she has to use it in the room you are. so she can be chatting with her friends or even people she doesn't know in rl but you'll see if she goes naked. If my parents didn't let me have a webcam i'd get so pissed.

You are a good parent. And you're what seems like one of the only good parents now-a-days, too. You're right. She only 14, why does she need a webcam? When I was 14, I wasn't allowed to have chatrooms, myspace, any of that stuff. I personally think that a lot of the kids who have accounts on websites don't need them. And I'm sure your daughter does not do this, but a lot of these kids are very innapropriate online, and I can see that their parents do not moniter them.

Good job not getting your daughter a webcam. Plus, there are so many perves going online, it's can be dangerous. Better safe than sorry.

saurans eye! wise move gandalf, fools of tooks :)

You sound like a good parent.