I really want to slap the shit out of her.

Oh yeah, violence will solve the problem NOT

*stands within the shading of a dark field*

Just leave her if it's not working.

pull her pants down and slap her butt.

Very normal to feel this way. Years back when domestic violence wasn't even a word this was the way men taught women the proper behaviors that were expected of them. It wouldn't be a slap to physically hurt her, just a slap to correct her, that showed her "this behavior you are doing is incorrect, if you continue this behavior you will get slapped". The same way you would a child, because that is what women really are, grown up children. It's very rare that rational reasonable explaining of anything gets through to women, you'll just hit a brick wall of emotion most of the time....

Now, times have changed and you can't do that anymore. If she refuses to listen to you and do as you say, and continues to fuck up her own credit (which is also YOUR credit since you married her) the only other suggestion is to take away all her credit cards, destroy them, closely monitor the accounts so she isn't bleeding money off or somehow opened up a card without your knowledge.

If this final solution still doesn't work you need to hire a divorce lawyer and either outright divorce or threaten with divorce until she finally understands she CANNOT behave this way.

I know this probably isn't the solution you wanted to read, but men can't allow themselves to be deluded or careless when it comes to real life grown up adult stuff.

YOU"RE THE ONE WHO WILL BE HELD RESPONSIBLE.

You probably believed in the "dream" of a family, house, white picket fence, etc....Unfortunately that dream is more of a pipe dream anymore and many men who believed in it are paying dearly for that this day and age.

Life is short man. If you are trying to tolerate a crap woman who wants to act however she wants and won't listen to you, I say cut your losses and move on. Let her clean up her own messes and jams she creates for herself.

She needs to make drastic changes OR you will continue suffering.

I ended up hitting my ex after she 2 timed me with a guy who attacked me before I found out, in reality it caused more problems than it solved and wasn't constructive in any way shape or form, especially for our children, who it has affected badly, just to reiterate what some others have found out, it destroyed my trust in other people and had a devastatingly negative effect, if I was you and your partner cant control her spending I would get rid before you have kids or get into financial troubles. I love my children dearly but they have tied me to someone I don't think I even like any more and very sadly have lost contact, which being honest might be in their best interests hopefully.

Maybe consider sitting down with her, and trying to figure a way of consolidating the debt also? I had a couple of months where I was paying out more than I was getting in recently and can feel a bit hopeless like you're drowning, sometimes it's easier to pretend it's not there. Please just be patient, I'm sure you'd be much happier helping sort the problem so you're both breathing easier.

Aside from being abuse and illegal (!) hitting someone is never going to do anything but cause more problems. I think you need to sit down like adults and sort this through. If that means maybe considering a relationship counsellor then perhaps that too?

If you hit her, you will change the way she sees you, she may never trust you again. Trust me, it is one of the most horrible feelings to have someone you love/trust/are close to lash out and inflict pain on you.

You might not want too slap her face but there are other places to slap her that might get her attention. Make her stay nude for the entire weekend and give her butt a good slapping. Make her cry. Have her stand in front of you and slap her tits. That seems to work well.