I really need advice?

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I have liked this guy for a long time and he started acknowledging me after 3 years of being friends. Its not a hardcore crush anymore but i do like him ( we went out with other people). Were in high school now and the problem is that he's very attractive ( He doesn't know that or i guess he doesn't really care) and a lot of girls are swooning over him especially one of my close friends (I've known him way longer than her though) for me his personality kind of does it for me (laid back, funny, and just a pretty chill person overall). I like to keep my love life on the hush because i don't like when everybody knows everyone's likes to gossip and be in your business, I've asked a couple of people for advice and they said i should do whatever i want because i like him first. He's been talking about getting in a relationship with me and hints it alot. what should i do?

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  • Whatintarnation
    7 years ago

    Hate to be a dick here but if you KNOW that he likes you and you KNOW that you like him what more do you really need? Date the guy already.

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  • Tealights
    7 years ago

    Confess your feelings to him in private, and begin a relationship.

    Understand that people will talk; sadly, that part of life will never, ever end, no matter how old you get. When it comes to relationships, the only opinion that's important is your partner and your own.

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  • ßrokenAngel
    7 years ago

    Are you looking for a Taylor Swift You belong with me moment ??? Come back down to reality this is not a music video you both like each other so take it slowly and don't rush into anything

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  • KennyD69
    7 years ago

    If you like each other and each of you know it ; then what are you waiting for ? No horn is going to blow to let you know it is OK ....

    IF you keep on waiting ; another girl is going to come along and sweep him away and you'll be left with nothing ...

    Do NOT wait ...

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  • pizzabrowniesushi
    7 years ago

    be like I am kind of into you are you into me ? I hope if you are not this isn't weird or anything.

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  • FilthyBeast
    7 years ago

    Jump his bones

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  • Decorum
    7 years ago

    Just tell him ffs!

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  • Aliceee93
    7 years ago

    If he isn't in a relationship then you should tell him how you feel, if not you could lose out to another girl, like your friend, then you'd regret it for the rest of your life.
    Go for it girl :) and keep us posted!

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  • MR.mr
    7 years ago

    start a relationship with him if you want and follow this one simple rule.

    Make it a rule that he will never be alone with another girl and you will never be alone with another guy while you date.

    This simple rule solves a lot of problems.

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    • charli.m
      7 years ago

      Wow.

      You have a lot of maturing to do.

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      • MR.mr
        7 years ago

        I don't see why I think that's reasonable and healthy. Removing people from temptation is often enough to prevent problems.

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        • charli.m
          7 years ago

          What's your solution to a bisexual person in a relationship? Or a gay person? Does your logic apply there, too?

          If you can't trust someone to that degree, why be with them?

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          • MR.mr
            7 years ago

            It's not a lack of trust in your partner it's a lack of trust in human nature. There are countless people who never dreamed of cheating yet found themselves in that situation later on, often this comes from spending a lot of alone time with someone. So why not simply remove the temptation?

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            • Tealights
              7 years ago

              I understand where youre going with this, but what's wrong with your statement is that it's unrealistic.

              It's human nature to socialize, and befriend each other. Not only different opinions and perspectives help us grow as a person, it's also unavoidable given that there's billions of people in the world. We're bound to end up alone with someone, but with that rule in place, your partner will always be nervous and won't make friends easily.

              Another thing is, there's always something that leads up to cheating. Cheating never happens over night (.... well, it can lol! But not my point). Just like a break up, cheating is can be cause by being unsatisfied in some way, poor communication, and more. If the relationship isn't strong, and stable enough to work their problems out, the end result will always turn out bad.

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            • charli.m
              7 years ago

              You didn't answer how it would work for bisexual people. Are they not to be alone with anyone, ever? Are gay people not allowed to be alone with their own gender, ever?

              It IS a lack of trust in your partner. You're heading towards being a controlling and/or abusive partner, fyi. If not already.

              Being a childish, jealous arsehole is far more likely to push someone to cheat.

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