I really like her but hate sharing a bed

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I'm 21 and this is my first serious relationship, every Friday and Tuesday we meet up after work go fora meal, go to the cinema or get a takeaway then stay round each other's house, this is the first time sleeping in a bed with someone,

I love the idea but I hate it. I enjoy the sex and I enjoy the hugging whilst watching tv etc and the talks while being close together but when it actually comes to sleeping I just can't

For so many Years I've slept on my own, sleeping next to someone is hot and uncomfortable, I'm pretty ocd when it comes to sleep and I have to sleep on my front with my arm under the pillow, I can't do that sharing a bed and I end up lying awake for hours uncomfortable and increasingly annoyed, I enjoy being close to her but having to take 3 hours to fall asleep is driving me crazy.

Has anyone else had this and does anyone have any advice

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  • ScooterNyne
    9 years ago

    It's refreshing to know someone feels the same as I haha. I too love sharing a bed and snuggling and cuddling and being all tangled up and close and intimate. It's fantastic! But when It's time for me to actually sleep I need her to get the fuck up off me lol. I'm glad to see that this is normal. Saves me from asking the same on IIN.

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  • (.)(.)boobies
    9 years ago

    I have the same issue and that's why I sleep on a king-sized bed.

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  • CountessDouche
    9 years ago

    Yes! Normal! From a female perspective...

    I love the snuggle. I'm always dating cuddle sluts. There's nothing better than drifting off all tangled up in some strong, secure man arms...but when it comes the time to actually sleep, get the fuck off me!

    Here are a few tips to help avoid the inevitable sleep deprivation:

    1. Man your position
    If you feel the sleepies coming on, for fucks sake, restrict the cuddling to one side of the bed- stay away from the middle! That way, if you need some distance, you won't have to wake her up.

    2. Be strategic
    You need to get yourself into the optimal cuddle position when you feel the zzz's coming on. You need to be set up so you can enjoy the snugs until sleepy time hits and be able to roll away without waking the other party- so having her laying in your chest is a big no-no...the spoon could work

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      Thanks that's good advice :)

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  • Santzu
    9 years ago

    Absolutely normal. Spacial problems happen to a large amount of people.

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  • FruityGoofyFaggot
    9 years ago

    I will attempt a solution: tell her seeping with someone in the bed makes you uncomfortable. Then suggest to have a second mattress put in there so you don't have to sleep next to her.

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  • dom180
    9 years ago

    I find it difficult too. Sleeping next to another human isn't easy. It takes me a long time to get to sleep at the best of times. Usually over an hour, regardless of how tired I feel. I twist and turn a lot before I find a space I'm comfortable in. Having another person there who has already fallen asleep makes it really hard to do that, because the space is limited and you don't want to wake them. You have to adjust from your normal sleeping position to account for a sleeping partner. I think if you stick it out every time you will get used to sleeping alongside her and your body will eventually learn to sleep normally, but that learning curve will require a lot of painful sleepless nights first.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      That sucks, was kinda hoping foe a miraculous secret position that's comfortable haha but she's worth all the sleepless nights

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      • dom180
        9 years ago

        Mmm. I like changing sleep positions constantly, so sleeping and cuddling at the same time is kind of impossible for me. I also feel very, very awake after sex, and seeing as that usually comes directly before trying to get to sleep it's altogether a lost cause for me. I don't think I've ever made it through a whole night lying next to another person. I always have to excuse myself, which sucks because I love the cuddling part and the idea is romantic even if the practicality is horrendous.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          9 years ago

          I'm exactly the same I feel physically tired but wide awake, we usually watch an episode of something on Netflix then go to sleep, I listen to like 3 hours of podcasts lol
          I would excuse myself but she's been pretty badly treated before and I'm over analytical so I'd start worrying that she'd feel used for sex, I think she's pretty insecure, I also think she tries to hide it like I try to hide my over analyzing tho

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          • dom180
            9 years ago

            Hmm. I think it's kind that you want to account for her insecurity, but it's also important to show her what a healthy relationship looks like by showing her how problems like this are solved in healthy relationships. Have you talked to her about your difficulty sleeping in the same bed as another person?

            Next time I have a girlfriend I think I'm going to carry sleeping pills with me :P You shouldn't use them every day of the week, but I think they would be helpful for people like you and me to use if and when you need them :) It isn't the most romantic solution in the world, but it's better than spending all night staring at the ceiling!

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  • Crvsades
    9 years ago

    I know the feeling. I like the sex, but when i sleep, she needs to get the fuck out of there! Man needs his bed all to himself. One of my exes used to snore and she always fell asleep before i did. I felt like putting a pillow over her damn face to shut her loud mouth once and for all. That's why, when i have a one night stands, the bitch actually doesn't stay for the night.
    Besides, women are pretty much useless aside from sex. I mean, at least cook me something you damn tramp! But noooo, cause Hell forbid you send a woman to the kitchen!
    Sorry to deviate so much from the subject. It's just that, bitches be annoying as FUCK!

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      No that's not my point, it's not just the sex, I enjoy the idea of sharing a bed, I enjoy after the sex too just laying there talking etc or watching tv hugging, I also don't have the attitude that she should fuck off after, I don't want her to its just that if I'm not laying on my front with my arm under the pillow I can't really sleep, especially as she falls asleep hugging me which is nice at first but soon gets really hot and stops me from sleeping

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      • Crvsades
        9 years ago

        Are you the little spoon? lol

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          9 years ago | pl

          I'm the one with a girlfriend, asshole

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          • Crvsades
            9 years ago

            You're the one with the sleeping problem, retard.

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            • NotTheSun
              9 years ago | pl

              You're still a trolling loser. You can call this poster a moron and retard, all day. But the real moron/loser, is the person who needs to make another account, because your incessant down votes, ruin your last account and you can't bitch enough as you want. It doesn't change the fact that you live to troll this site; you are such a loser and depraved troll, that you had to make another account to troll on, because you are down-voted so much, it gets to you, poor little troll. Every time you comment, yet another, bitter and pathetic onslaught of nonsense, you will continue to lose accounts.

              You really must have the most pathetic daily routine and life, if logging in to a site, where everyone is sick of you and your trolling antics, and laughs at you, it literally ruins your accounts with being thumbed down so often.
              Yet you are so stupid, you create more; to bitch and moan on, most of the moaning comes from stalking out any homosexual threads to say, "fag", it's hilarious you are so bitter and so self loathing, that all you have is the internet shit talk, to fill your days.

              Being that you are so preoccupied with gay topic, and the chance to use the word "fag", it's so evident that you hate what you are. Closet case! You're the laughing stock, for I and others. Will you make your third account, when the community ruins this account, too?

              What a depraved creeper. Did mommy and daddy forget to hug you? Or are they non-existent, in your life, if you call it that, spending all of your time stalking every post to leave bitter comments, reflecting how miserable you are and live? "Boo hoo.. Let me go troll a site where I'm ignored more and no one wiikes me, wahh"... Keep it up! Fun to check out a post and see how much you lurk and try to bring every post down, to feel something, maybe two inches taller; over compensate and spout bullshit, so you can cope with misery/non-existent presence in this world. Hahaha. Crusades - Crvsades = Lolz cow of the site.

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            • Anonymous Post Author
              9 years ago

              I have problems sleeping twice a week because a beautiful woman sleeps hugging me.

              I'd rather that than wank myself to sleep at night on my lonesome

              :'(

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        • SkullsNRoses
          9 years ago

          Nothing wrong with that.

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