I prefer to hang out one-on-one

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When I organize a social gathering, generally I prefer to keep it as minimal as one person and sometimes two. I do have a good number of friends, that's not the issue, but there's an unsettling feeling having a large group of people around; when the group is larger than three or four, conversations begin to break off into smaller side conversations. Alongside this, when I'm one-on-one with someone, I can get comfortable with them; we can sit down and talk to each other focusing on nothing but what the other one is saying, while with groups this option may vary. Also consider that if I do not trust someone within the group, it is difficult to talk as myself being that I do not want to risk spilling information.

In a nutshell, I prefer to hang out one on one because it makes it easier for us to converse and I feel I have a better time this way. Is it normal?

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  • howaminotmyself
    8 years ago

    I get it. I have a few friends i am completely honest with regarding intimate details of my life. I can talk one on one without issue. However, if you put them all in a group, I am not comfortable sharing even though they are the same people.

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  • Philipp
    8 years ago

    It is the same for me too. It's so difficult to be comfortable when in groups.

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  • Tinybird
    8 years ago

    I feel exactly the same way! Seriously, I can never get my point across when I'm in a big group of people. I don't have any friends to hang out in a group but when I have family gatherings, like the other day with my mum, sister, aunt and grandma and it was impossible to talk to them without someone interrupting. Then I would try to get their attention but they would not listen to me. I end up usually getting very overwhelmed, frustrated and over-stimulated when I have to try to converse among a group, especially finding it hard to focus on what the other person is saying when there are other people talking at the same time. Is that normal? Socialising takes so much out of me physically and emotionally and leaves me feeling drained, exhausted and annoyed.

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  • SnowFox
    8 years ago

    I feel the same way and for me I feel like I can express my true self with less people. If there are too many people especially with very loud personalities I always kind of get pushed to the side.

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  • harukim
    8 years ago

    it is totally normal to feel this way.

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