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Sometimes, I can't see anything but flaws in people. I can be eating dinner and suddenly hate my mum for eating so much, or my dad for burping. I randomly hate me sister for having frizzy hair too. like basically, is it normal to sometimes see ONLY bad in people, even people you love?
You are a pessimist by nature. Pessimism in general means exactly what you said, that you see the bad instead of the good.
Being a pessimist in general IS normal but a very sad way to live your life. I used to be this way but then I realised how sad and depressing I was becoming and cleaned my thoughts up.
Do you see yourself in a bad manner? If so, please look in the mirror and say the following:
"I cannot change the wrongs that people don't like about me and I understand this, but I will accept the good within me. My life is meaningful and I know that I have to be happy with MYSELF before I can be happy with anything else."
Try saying those things and do it once a day, within a month you will start looking at the world differently, I did.
People with low self-esteem tend to focus on people's negative qualities, and people with high self-esteem often see the good in people more often. This might have something to do with it
Hahaa, I got the oppisite. I ALWAYS see the good in people and don't pick up the bad things, and I'm always convinced everything will turn out great.
But I think you're pretty normal (:
There are MUCH more irritating things waiting for you out in the real world, friend! It's so sadly ironic that the short time we have with our family is wasted in adolescence, thinking of them as the 'enemy' and such. Soon they'll be gone, you know...
It sounds like you are a teenager or a young person still at home. In which case it is totally normal to be a bit irritable. I think it is just part of development... nature's way of making it easier for you think about leaving the 'nest' and/or become a bit more independant. Once you go to college or leave home or whatever you will find yourself loving them without getting so easily irritated. In the mean time try not to get into too many arguments because it will make you and them unhappy. It could also affect things like your allowance etc ;-) When you are irritated by silly things just remember that you really do love them and these small things don't matter. After all, life is too short to argue with the people you love, they won't be there forever.
Hi!
I believe it is not crazy to think this way, but it's definitely something you want to control. I admit that I have these same thoughts from time to time. I think it takes an effort to not think this way, and don't feel like it is healthy. But with your family, especially your parents, it's very easy to hate them, ironically. It's very normal, agree with lostinspace.
BTW, I got here b/c I was looking for a word, it is cynicism. If you feel this way with EVERYONE, you are a cynic. It's different than pessimism in the sense that pessimism can apply to situations also, I believe.
You are insecure. I used to be like this sort of it's a deeper problem. It's not about them, it's about you.
people who looks gormless and leave there mouths open alot agrivate me, im a nice person, but tiny things irritate me, not to the point of physicall reaction of course =]
Sadly, you do the same to yourself. You hold yourself to the same impossible standards and scrutiny as you do others. It's a mindset. It yields misery and futility. Are you miserable? Thought so! Decide that you want to see the world differently. Then start making positive footnotes about yourself and others. This will seem against the grain at first, nut be painstaking. Even keep a journal. And make sure to discuss whatvyour doing with a trusted friend. Thatvway, you have support. Best to you!
I think most people find it easier to point out the bad things about others, you just need to utilize that skill the give good advice to others, but sometimes its better do it in indirect way.
sounds like u have alot of friends haha but ya i guess its normalk but u wont get far by hatin people.
i can relate to that , sometimes even the smallest thing about a certain person can irritate me , even though i won't say anything about it to any1
That happens to me kind of. Like when i see someone i just hate them and they are annoying the hell out of me even if they didnt even do anything lol.
I'm like you. I get pissed easily too. Lol, I'm pretty sure a lot of people are like this.