I now want to just be friends with my girlfriend.

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Okay, let me explain. Last year I dated this girl after not knowing her that long, and we broke up and it was whatever. So now me and said girl started speaking again last month and now that I knew her better, we are now dating. She is such a nice person, really friendly, we click great, but there are two problems. First problem is that now I realize that I am not that attracted to her physically. I didn't really consider this when we started dating again for some stupid reason. Second problem is that I feel like we're just friends more than anything. We've already kissed, but I just feel like we're just elevated friends instead of an actual relationship. So now I'm here. I want to break up with her, but I don't want to hurt her because I truly do care for her, but I know I should because she deserves someone who likes every part of her. I also don't want to do it because her parents like me and I don't want them to have a bad image of me. I know it needs to be done because It's not fair for either of us, but in this amount of time she's become my friend as well which is kind of odd to say, but this ties in with what I said about it feeling like we're friends more than anything. We talk like we're friends, not like we're in a relationship. Is this normal? Please help me..

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  • Terence_the_viking
    7 years ago | pl

    The only way to sort this out is to talk to her.

    Imagine this 10 years down the line you are married to her with 3 kids then all of a sudden you sum up the courage to tell her i'm sorry but i don't find you physically attractive can we be friends instead of husband and wife.

    Break it off early rather than ruining her life way down the line.

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    • Ihopethisisnormal
      7 years ago

      Update: So i talked to her and turns out she thinks the exact same way! We both just think we're better off being friends

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      • Terence_the_viking
        7 years ago

        Ah cool it's good that you sorted it out.

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    • Ihopethisisnormal
      7 years ago

      I'll give it a few more days, because I really do appreciate her and I want to be sure that this is what I want, and then if I still feel this way, I'll talk to her about it

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  • BiJayNM
    7 years ago

    Maybe you can be friends with benefits.

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  • Newid
    7 years ago

    So you found out you are closet gay? Then be frank with her and tell her to persue someone else and stay away from you while you find a guy to date.

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  • Ellenna
    7 years ago

    You need to be clear with her, for both your sakes. If you're only doing friend type things together then you already are "just friends": the only problem is if she's expecting more than you want to give.

    Tell her you value her as a friend and check out her response: if she seems disappointed then you need to make it clear that's all it's going to be

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    • Ihopethisisnormal
      7 years ago

      Thank you for the serious response. I wish I could do this, but we're already dating.

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      • Ellenna
        7 years ago

        Well the longer you let this go on the harder it's going to be. Depends what you mean by dating I guess ... going out to dinner, the movies, having sex?

        I don't think it would to be kind or tactful to just tell her you're not physically attracted to her but what's wrong with telling her you only want to be friends? This is assuming you're not dumping her as a friend

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