I never want to make a christmas dinner

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My mum does all the Christmas dinner preparations and spends all day making it and I never want that to be my Christmas. She also does the vast majority of chores around the house all year. I just can’t picture that ever being my life.

I’m 19 and female and I live at uni most of the time and I do my own chores/cooking there but I can’t ever picture myself taking care of a family or even just having to do stuff for other people.

It just seems like so much work that I never want to have to do. She is just doing it constantly and I feel sorry for her but like, not enough to help with any of it.

It’s not fair that she has to do it but I don’t want it to ever be not fair on me. Is it normal that I just completely can’t imagine and never want to have to do stuff for other people or spend my Christmas making the dinner?

I feel like I’ll always just go round to my parents’ or maybe my sister’s if she wants to make a dinner and I’ll have a chef to do it when I’m super rich but I’m never going to let cooking and cleaning for others be my life.

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  • bbrown95
    3 years ago

    It's normal to not want all of that responsibility. Many people don't.

    Personally, while I wouldn't mind making a nice dinner every once in awhile for my family, I enjoy living on my own and just taking care of myself most of the time. I couldn't imagine myself happy as a housewife or stay-at-home mother, because it's simply not for me.

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  • SwickDinging
    3 years ago

    It would be weird if you wanted that level of responsibility at 19. You sound normal.

    You may find you start to want more responsibility as you get older, or not. Either way is fine. Just do what makes you happy.

    Merry Christmas!

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  • Cuntsiclestick
    3 years ago

    My boyfriend and his family just orders the Christmas meal from Whole Foods. It's all already made and all we have to do is heat it up. It's super easy, super fast, and the food is tasty.
    :)

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  • RoseIsabella
    3 years ago

    I don't think doing all of that work is worth it unless I'm highly appreciated. I just haven't had any desire to serve other people in that way. My Mom does all of that stuff, but my dad treats her really well, and shows his love often. My dad isn't rich, but he's always given my mother flowers, chocolates, and sometimes jewelry or whatever she wants on her birthday, their anniversary, Christmas and Saint Valentine's day so I can understand my mother's dedication. My mom does pretty much all the cooking, cleaning, shopping, and even yardwork. My mom also makes a lot of decisions with regard to real estate investments. My parents are best friends, and they love each a lot, they've been together for 53 years if my memory serves me well.

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  • litelander8
    3 years ago

    My ex in-laws, whom I love, generally have huge family parties. So I don’t think I’ll wind up doing many when my kids will be going there for most holidays. I don’t mind at all.

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  • rocketdave
    3 years ago

    You'll make a wonderful wife and mother!

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