I never cried when someone died.

Ive had a lot of people die but never cried or felt sad or anything about them. Ive always kinda felt like *well, theres not much i can do now* people always look at me like i am a bad person for not crying but that doesnt make me feel guilty, is this normal?

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  • Aewe101

    I do the same my cousin died like two weeks ago, I did not cry I see no point I'm just not that sad, I mean if it was my parents or sister than yes I would cry but not for someone who does not mean that much to me in life

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  • animaguskid

    There was someone I lost a while back. I wasn't very close to this person and have only one memory of her today. I remember feeling guilty that I wasn't more upset. I never cried but other people around me cried. A year after that someone very close to me died. I made up for not crying for the first death and I understood that I didn't lack any sort of common concern for the goodwill of others. It's only natural not to cry when you don't really know the person even if they're a relative and even if you know them just a little.

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  • neuronarf

    I used to be that way, and then years passed and I finally wept over a few deaths I never dealt with. Dunno why it happened that way.

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  • PatrickZ

    That's perfectly normal, everyone handles death differently.

    I remember when my grandfather died a couple of years ago. At his funeral, my causin was crying like a little child (eventough she's an adult woman). I couldn't cry. I felt sad of course, he was a great person, but the tears just didn't come.

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  • DarkBlue

    And I thought I was the only one :P Yeah! I don't cry too! I just become blank! I feel like yeah I should be crying..but mostly I can't..It gets worse afterwards though..I mean I don't cry but I might dwell on it longer than anyone :/

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  • xxwrong-as-rainxx

    I've known plenty of people that died and it never really bothered me, i'd think 'huh that sucks'. When my grandpa died i was fine with it cause he was old and thats what happens, but when my dog died i bawled like a baby.

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  • dirtybirdy

    Its cool. I have cried over a few deaths but that's because I was very close to one of the people and the others were very sudden deaths of friends mothers. Awful :(

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  • cigs

    well i have cried when someone has died or a pet because thats the normal thing to do isn't it

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    • NothingxCrazy

      The way you said this basically means.. you cry BECAUSE it's normal and not because you just naturally cry at these sort of moments. Is this what you meant to say?

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      • cigs

        yeah sorta like that

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        • NothingxCrazy

          So you wouldn't cry if you didn't see it as normal? Sounds kind of silly, doesn't it?

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          • cigs

            i don't know if it was some one who i cared for i would.

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  • NothingxCrazy

    I cried a lot when I lost one of my best friends. He was just.. gone. Even though we hadn't talked in a few years, it bothered me to a great extent. Same with my cat. I grew up with my cat and the fact that he would no longer be at my parents place when I returned was very hard for me. I cried for the change death brought, but I was happy two creatures were no longer suffering. Thinking about it still brings tears to my eyes.

    I don't think you're a bad person. Not everyone is so easily affected by this sort of change.

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  • Fuzztard

    It simply means that you were able to get over their deaths pretty easily.

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  • purplegirl22

    It is a normal part of grieving, you just don't get emotional. That's entirely normal. I don't cry anymore either, my reason is I've become numb to the whole death thing.

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  • tori

    It all depends who it is. I had a family member die and I did the happy dance. Evil was gone.
    My parents....cried myself silly.
    But, if that's how you deal with death, it's ok. We all deal with death in our own way.
    Don't feel bad. Don't let people dictate how you should feel. You own your feelings, not them.

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  • Nor will I in the near future.

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  • NotFloydzie

    You're not a bad person for feeling that way. Everyone has their own way of dealing with death, and this is yours. I've never cried when I've heard someone's death, but I've never had someone very close to me die.

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