I need help. please someone. my bf sucks

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If anyone reads this whole thing- thank you.
I really need help, idk if it’s in my head or if it is reasonable and he’s in the wrong

- so my bf doesn’t go out often, last time he did was like a month ago for 2 hours and he doesn’t even drink. So why go out? Also, some of his friends are married and they go out and I’m pretty sure they talk to girls. I’m the only one who knows this bc I read their group chats. Apparently he’s going out one day this week and the group chat said “we’re going to war guys Friday - Tuesday” bc apparently some of their friends are in town. My bf said he would only go out one week. But Why. Why not just hangout before and come back to me. I’m gonna be at his place all alone. One of their friend even suggested them going to LA or sam Diego (we live in Newport Beach) they literally only do this shit to pick up girls. And whenever I tell my bf about it and that it bothers me. He gets mad and says that he just wants to hangout with his friend. It’s just so rude to me... and idk what to do/: he’s 27 and his friends range from 29-40 and there’s like 5 of them

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[Old Memory]

6 years ago

Jesus Christ. You ever think you're the problem here? Some of his friends are married? Which ones talk to other girls, the married ones or not, also what does that have to do with your partner going out to see his friends? Even if the married ones are "talking to girls" doesn't mean he is trying to pick girls up.

He rarely goes out yet you're like this the very few times he goes out because he should be back with you? Controlling much?

He shouldn't go out at a time he scheduled, he should when you prefer for your own benefit.

You read their chats.

You blindly assume their reasons for going to a different area is to pick up girls, therefor it bothers you and he can't go.

I'd be Pissed off with you too if you were my partner telling me that I can't go out when my friends come to town to spend time with them based on things you're blindly assuming so that you can somehow justify being so controlling that it borders on abuse.

Leave him be. He's allowed friends, he's allowed to spend time on things besides you.

You're the issue here, not him.

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- Checkmate_King
  
  6 years ago
  
  She sounds to me like a clingy whiny posessive beyotch. Can't stand it that a guy needs a night out with his buds every MONTH jeez.
  
  He'd be well off without her mistrusting crap. I bet she goes through his wallet and phone.
  
  Chuck this one...she's nuts.
  
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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  6 years ago
  
  How is it abuse... you do realize that some girls don’t like their bfs going out ..... ya know?
  
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  - [Old Memory]
    
    6 years ago
    
    I know, right? Fuck that asshole having friends! Fuck that guy thinking he can do anything that doesn't involve your approval!
    
    You're totally not a controlling cunt and I'm totally not being sarcastic when I say that.
    
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    - Checkmate_King
      
      6 years ago
      
      Agreed! I know her type and she's not worth a minute time of a good man
      
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      - Anonymous Post Author
        
        6 years ago
        
        Why
        
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  - RoseIsabella
    
    6 years ago
    
    ... and they can leave those asshole guys, then look for someeone better instead.
    
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  - [Old Memory]
    
    6 years ago
    
    Anyone who gets mad at their partner for going out is a total cunt. He is obviously a pussy for putting up with you getting upset about that. Why don't you go out and live life? Your problems are your own fault.
    
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Rictictavie

6 years ago

Stop posting this everyday please. Make a choice in your life and stick to it. Nobody on here can make the decision for you.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  6 years ago
  
  You keep saying that. You don’t give me a real answer
  
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  - Rictictavie
    
    6 years ago
    
    You post questions regarding your boyfriend far too often. The consensus is always the same. If you're not happy leave him. You either need to accept that he goes to bars with his friends or he needs to meet you in the middle on some sort of agreement. If neither of these requirements are met then your toxic relationship should come to an end.
    
    This is the response you are going to get every time you post. The next post I hope to see from you should be "IIN my boyfriend and I broke up?" The answer will be a resounding yes.
    
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tedy

6 years ago

Ask him this... How do you feel about life around you?.
How is your life going at the moment? both options.
Do you like everything in your life?... and if he asks why.. You say Because I don't like smth... if he shows no reaction then try this in a calm moment when nothing is going on and if even then nothing is happening fuck the guy his family.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  6 years ago
  
  What
  
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[Old Memory]

6 years ago

Congrats OP! This is your 100th post about your lame boyfriend.

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itsamistake

6 years ago

For Gods Sake! We are ALL sick and tired of you posting this same shit over and over and over again!

We have told you in all the previous posts (so many I have lost track now) and you don't fucking listen! He is 27 and you are 19. You sound very immature and he (though not this one so much) sounds like a dick.

Break The Fuck Up! You are obviously toxic together and not fucking happy..

Does that clarify the situation for you? Jesus Christ!

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skaiste10020

6 years ago

You're just being jealous

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  6 years ago
  
  How.. jealous of what
  
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  - tedy
    
    6 years ago
    
    Guys Guys relax!!! She has to come up with a solution, really ;)
    You are entering an adult Life so please get the grip on your life young lady :* :D
    Find someone else. If you do not like something now, later one you might regret everything. If you will stay around him.
    
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Ummitsme

6 years ago

He goes out every 2 months to meet other clingy 19 year olds.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  6 years ago
  
  Huh
  
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lonewolf1253

6 years ago

Many men suck. But does he swallow? If he swallows, he's as queer as a three dollar bill and you need a new boyfriend.

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Starkiller12

6 years ago

Cheat on him with BBCS that shoul do it!

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  6 years ago
  
  Who’s that and why
  
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RoseIsabella

6 years ago

If you don't like it, just leave. You are powerless to control him

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  6 years ago
  
  Haha he controls me
  
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  - RoseIsabella
    
    6 years ago
    
    So then leave him, and then he won't be able to control you.
    
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barstool

6 years ago

"We're going to war" ?? Ugh... What does that mean? Fighting the battle of ...picking up girls, yeh?
Or am I misinterpreting?

Look, you've definitely gotta leave this guy. Give him the option (if you really like him) to quit the shit, because hey, maybe he's just fallen in with a bad crowd of creepy pua dudes.

But this shit isn't cool. Even if he isn't cheating, it's not cool to chat up other girls (it sounds like that's definitely what he's doing).

So ask him if you can come along. Or maybe you could set up someone to spy and video-record him - that'd be awesome. He deserves it. At least then you'd know for sure.
Cos some guys have the idea that cheating is fine as long as you don't get caught, and you can probably do better than be with someone like that. It's cuntish behaviour, such a shitty way to treat people.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  6 years ago
  
  Yeah. I think telling someone to watch him is a little extreme. He tells me time and time again that he wouldn’t do that to me and excuses his friends behavior with “they’re single” and he doesn’t say that stuff in the group chat but reading it makes me weird
  
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  - barstool
    
    6 years ago
    
    yeah, sorry I mighta got a bit carried away writing that - just got on a roll of hating him and the hate built up like a snowball. A rolling hateball. Don't sink the hateball.
    Anyway... I still think you have a right to feel comfortable, and I don't think you're being ridiculous. There's gotta be a bit of compromise I guess. And he's gotta be more open to talking about it.
    
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      Compromise like what
      
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