I need guy advice. please :)

most guys dont like mind games and we would love it if women would just say what they think instead of speaking in code all the time. we cant figure out whats going on inside those pretty little heads of yours. we're simple creatures that can basically only think of food women and sleep. we also for the most part like to sit down alot and not be bothered with to much conversation. If you want this guy,just (1)tell him the truth, that you think he's hot,(2)feed him and (3)show him your boobs. this should make him fall in love with you in about 1/2 hour to 45 minutes unless he is one of those asshole jokes,then goodluck,I think most of those guys are secretly gay.

I think that he is keeping you around because he likes you but he thinks he can do better. If all else fails he has you to fall back on. I've done this with guys who I like but am not totally attracted to. This way if I get a bf that turns out to suck or I break up with a boyfriend or I'm single I have someone to hang out with or go out to places with. So I think that he likes you or he obviously wouldn't keep you around so much but he doesn't like you the way that you like him. That is what I think is going on. I wish you the best of luck. The bottom line is that you want a relationship with someone who is totally crazy about you. That is not the case here so keep this guy as friend and look elsewhere.

he's stringing you along. actions speaker louder than words. you're probably just convenient. dont be there waiting for him to change his mind. start hanging oit with other people in groups and stuff and dont be in such a hurry to get attached.

If he's not going to give you a straight up answer, then maybe you should leave him. There are many fish in the sea, and trust me, you'll find better.

Yea generally males are very straightforward with their feelings and desires. If he desired you and only you it would be pretty obvious. He sounds to me like he still has something pretty serious going on with his ex, which is why you haven't gotten a straight answer regarding your current status in your "relationship" with him. It's time that you stand up and create a threshold for him. Either he commits himself to you, or he doesn't and you guys cut off communication. Anything in the middle ground is just going to mess with your feelings and confuse you.

Dont expect to become his wife or anything but if its really true that hes scared he just wants a friend which can show him love and care for him stuff that another guy friend would do for him so he might like u cause u care but as a friend someone to comfort him. Your every guys dream bestfriend..

He is asking you to be his F**k buddie. Your second in command when it comes to penis.

try playing hard to get. i know its messing with his head, and i wouldnt normally suggest it but try it. some distance could be all he needs to show him he wants to be with you.

suck his dick he might like you more after

I asked my boyfriend about this and he said it could be that " HES KEEPING YOU AROUND AND USING YOU TO PISS OFF HIS EX AND TO MAKE HER JEALOUS". Do you know what their still fighting about even after they been broken up??????????????

I agree with all of the above, you are flogging a dead horse! Please don't be conned by his reasons for - 'letting you be around his kid'.

You should NOT be involved with this child at all. It will hurt the child if you disappear from its life and when the child tells his ex you were there, the poor child has to listen to her vent her spleen and rant in a bad temper.

I've seen a lot of this before and I know his motives.... He's looking for a silly female to act as an unpaid babysitter!! A lot of men don't really enjoy the company of young children (nor do I) and a little adult company is better than him being forced to bond with the child on his own.

He does not want a doormat, so tell him that you have better things to do eg. wash your hair, while he spends time with his own child. He / she is NOTHING to do with you - so stay away! It's him you want, not the child! You're too available for him to want you!

If he's going through things with his ex right now, he might just be taking it easy for now. I think you should wait a little longer and see if anything progresses. He might just need a little time.

Maybe he likes the chase

this is very simailar to what people i know do but they have been on and off for 3 months and claims she loves him :| which i dont find normal but he also cheated on her several times too... i have a question about this in more detail search me and you can comment etc :) but this is not normal

Let him get over his ex first otherwise you'll just a rebound thing and it really won't work. The fact that he lets you be around his kid is a good sign. I think he's just keeping you on hold untill he knows what he wants, but it sounds like he may still have issues with his ex. I've been there and until you purge it, you can't move on. If the ex is the mother of his kid then it is a bit harder to move on when you still have a link between the two of you.
If he's worth it then wait and hope he sorts his head out. If not then go find someone with a less complicated life.

I know you said guy advice but it sounds like hes still got some issues with his ex and is probably not ready to jump into another relationship. give him some time and be his friend be there for him when he needs you the most. Show him that you care and want to be girl. Dont push it let him come around on his own when hes ready. But if he doesnt then maybe you should just move on to the next guy. good luck with that :)

don't waste your time

As stated in "Sex and the City," there are no mixed signals. If he wanted to date you, you'd know it no questions asked.

Leave him you'll never be more