I need a girlfriend. am i normal?

The options on your poll are all ridiculous... just keep trying

Well I'm separated and to be rather honest, for me personally, I'm at a stage where I'm just putting relationships on the back burner.

However, I see you're a step ahead of me, you're now on the hunt for a life partner. My suggestion to you is ask these women, what stopped them from proceeding further in the relationship? What could you do to improve yourself?

Dress up well, being nice and polite if you're fat then lost weight try to make your body look nice to others then you'll get one but i believe you do nothing and just complain.

See a therapist to work through your personal issues. You may still be grieving even if you're unaware of it. I'm willing to bet that you're saying or doing something to turn off the women you've been dating, and that you're completely unaware of what you're doing.

I'm sorry for your loss, but if you're walking around with too much baggage it's going to overwhelm most people. Also you shouldn't be in such a hurry to get laid, because you need to get to know someone first. When you say you "need" someone it comes off like you're trying to replace your late wife even she wasn't perfect. No one wants to just be a surrogate!

Get some professional help and work on your issues.

Dude, condolences. Firstly, the comments that the women are making are standard female bullshit. If you had any potential with women you would know it by now. Based on your problems with sexual attraction, your marriage was probably a break even deal. Your wife was probably an excellent business partner, but bad in the sack. She probably only banged you once a month and she fantasized about other women while she was getting humped.

I say cut your losses. Women are generally very predatory. It takes years of social learning to handle them. The women you could get involved with at this point, will only make your life miserable. Travel the world by yourself, and be happy that you at least had something worth while in your life.

Make her laugh.

It's surprising how easily the ice breaks between two people once a joke is exchanged (even I fall victim to it; by time I'm aware of it I'm already laughing and my guard is down lol); however, this method may not work on all women depending on sense of humor, intelligence (i.e. If you like clever jokes), and the situation. Also, making jokes will not guaranteed you a long-term girlfriend, it's more like breaking the tension between a potential one night stand or starting a Friends with Benefits kind of thing.

Lastly, just smell nice and be well groomed. You don't have to be hairless, but if you like having a beard, then make sure it's nicely trimmed and clean. You don't have to dress fancy, just wear something you're comfortable in and (again) clean. The reason I say this is because women are afraid of getting abducted, raped, or murdered; if you look sketchy and dirty, we'll get scared and assume you're homeless or worse.

If you need a gf the only answer is to keep trying.