I miss him even though i never knew him?

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My Granddad died when I was 2 years old of lung cancer, next month will be the 20th anniversary of his death. And even though he died before I could remember him, I still miss him! I was told all these amazing stories about him when I was growing up, what kind of a person he was, and what an amazing Dad and Granddad he was by my mother, her siblings and my cousins. I even let him influence my life, (I've never smoked, as I know how he died) by doing or not doing things as he would like, for example, whenever I enter a building I always take my hat off if I'm wearing one (which is a thing he was picky about) or I never ever wear shoes in a house (I watched a home video of him lecturing my Dad about this for about 20 minutes). And I was wondering if it's normal?

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  • Caryopteris
    10 years ago

    It's normal to a fascination about ancestors, particularly when you heard so much about them that it was like you knew them.

    You can also honor him by trying to get pictures of him and other family members for a wall display. Make all the pictures black and white or tintype, cropping them for artistic value, making them look even older than they are for an artistic feel.

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  • CornedBeefAndCabbage
    10 years ago

    I also miss my grandfathers and my grandmother although I never got the chance to meet them.
    But back to your post... You grew up hearing these stories about him and watching him on home videos. I'm sure it feels like you got to know who he was but he never got to know you. I believe it is normal. I'm sure your granddad is happy knowing he can influence your life like that. :)

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  • n0Tn0rm4L
    10 years ago

    Before I was born my mother carried a baby girl full term and then lost her at birth. I often think how different life would be if she'd of lived. I have even had dreams about her, even though I was born years after she died.

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  • m3g@m@n
    10 years ago

    Sorry about your grandpa. Everybody knows how hard it is to lose loved ones. And be sure it's normal to miss him.

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  • Terence_the_viking
    10 years ago

    Yes thats sounds about right.

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  • TwoThumbs
    10 years ago

    I never knew my grandfather..but I'm pretty luck to have amazing parents. I wish I could have gotten to know my father's father but he passed shortly after I was born. Its ok to have these feelings. They are only feelings. It's very normal. Accept that you were very lucky to be a part of his lineage.

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