I might be loosing my friends to because of my boyrfriend

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I've been with my boyfriend for 16 months, and we've been getting really close lately. I used to be pretty close with my friends but now I hardly ever hang out with them. I spend all my time with my boyfriend, which I love! I love spending time with him and I never get tired of that, I'm just afraid I'm loosing all my friends in the process. My friends tend to hang out every Friday night or so and I always already have plans with him. I spend all my time at school with him too because I can't stand to be away from him. But is this wrong? Is it normal that I would I would stop hanging out with my friends now that I'm serious with my boyfriend. I'm scared I won't have them anymore when I really need them. Any advice please! I'm getting pretty upset with myself for how I'm handing this.

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  • ccjigsaw
    11 years ago

    This sounds super mean!!! But it's the truth. You not hanging with your friends anymore is due to you indugling in selfish desires. You want to hang out with your boyfriend, so you do it. You know you don't have to though, but you do it anyways. If it's bothering you, it probably bothered your friends as well. Sometimes people have to do things they don't want to do, so maybe take the time out of your week (every Friday) and do something about it.

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  • shade_ilmaendu
    11 years ago

    Honestly if you can't stand to be away from him it sounds like you might be a little too dependant, or something idk. I've never been in a relationship like that, it's good for couples to have time apart and don't you miss doing shit with your friends, or even just being alone ever? Be happy by yourself and you will be much happier in general

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  • dolan_ftw
    11 years ago

    happened to a very, very good friend of mine as well. all she cared about was her boyfriend. when we met she was texting him all the time.
    we do not have contact anymore and honestly? if she broke up with him now and came crying, I wouldn't care AT ALL. I needed her friendship but she ignored me because of her boyfriend.
    do not spend all your time with your bf, even though it might feel right. the relationship could be over quicker than you think and then you might be alone without anyone.

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  • Avant-Garde
    11 years ago

    You should try to spend time with your friends and give your boyfriend some space.

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  • dom180
    11 years ago

    Bare in mind that, however perfect your relationship with your boyfriend seems now, it almost certainly won't last forever. When it ends, you'll need your friends to support you and help you to get through it. Have a word with them and your boyfriend about this. I know it's difficult to tear yourself away from him, but it'll hurt infinitely more when you finally break up if your friends aren't there to help you.

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    • Avant-Garde
      11 years ago

      I agree.

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  • Hoohahohyahhh
    11 years ago

    This is normal, especially for girls but I do not condone it. I know because one of my best friends (female) entered a relationship and they make up all these rediculous rules and restrictions, even getting mad when he or she hangs out with his or her friends. On her birthday, she chose to spend it with her friends and he got mad and didn't show. She gets mad when he talks to ANY girl so he shut off every female relationship he had

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  • Dot123
    11 years ago

    I would just give your BF a break once in awhile tell him to go hang with his bros and have some guy time.

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  • BettyBoobs
    11 years ago

    Hi!

    The exact same story happened to me, with my second boyfriend. We stayed together for 8 months but after the first one, I'd already stop hanging out with my friends. I was in the same class as him and we spent all our weekend together. The day we broke up was a fucking nightmare. I hadn't noticed until then that he'd become my one and only friend and dealing with us breaking up by myself was pretty tough.
    Even if you stay with him forever, there'll be a time when you need your friends and also they might be needing you now.

    If I could give you some advice, try and not lose them all. I know how amazing you feel right now, like you don't need anybody else but eventually you will, and it's be really hard for you to be alone then.
    Try and hang out with them, even if you bring your boyfriend with you :)

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