I'm worried he's going to stalk me.

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I recently posted a story about a guy I met (http://isitnormal.com/story/is it normal to-be-this-attached-after-one-night-together-178304/) - for those who CBA to read, basically he told me he loved me immediately and became extremely clingy, sending me long 'romantic' texts and wanting to see me all the time.

After the comments I got on the other story, I decided to give him another chance - we met up, he stayed over. The next day, we went for breakfast - he left his bag at mine so that he had to come back to get it, and I basically couldn't get rid of him, we watched a movie and then I was like ok seriously you need to go now, which he did. I found the day together wearing as all he talked about was how much he likes me (boring), so I text him after saying things are a little intense, I need some space to think, I'm very busy and not sure I want a relationship. He seemed understanding, but since then has kept texting me these loooooong text messages, including one telling me he is moving to a new house in my area (!!!)

Warning signs of stalking:

Said he loved me immediately, always telling me how lonely he is and how much he needs me, basically making me responsible for his happiness right away.

Seems to get angry when I don't fall in line with his plans.

Is moving to a new house in my area which isn't near where he works (I live in East London, he's currently living in South and is now moving East to about 10 mins from my house).

When I first met him he told me when he gets angry he gets super angry and put this guy in hospital - "but don't worry because I never let myself get angry".

Idolises women unrealistically and wants me 'save' me.

When we went to breakfast, I didn't want to finish mine as I was full - he insisted I eat all of it and said we weren't leaving till I did but also said I seemed uncomfortable (which I was) yet didn't let up making me eat my stupidly enormous breakfast.

Is ignoring my requests for space.

I'm honestly never scared of guys but there is something really off about him and I'm kind of scared - he's a really big ex-army guy and he seems tapped in the head.

IIN? Am I paranoid? What should I do?

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  • Gspyder
    9 years ago

    Not good. Tell him you don't want a relationship and if he keeps up you can and should get the police involved

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  • fullhouse
    9 years ago

    I dare not advice you as I know it's about your security n I can't be there physically to help you out of this but I must say, he seems to infatuated by you n that he's not sure what's the protocol about relationships.
    Being an Indian guy who's been with a white girl before I guess I'd be like that too if I meet a beautiful girl minus the moving close by n constant messages. All you have to do is tell him in clear words, to back off n give you space else you'll stop seeing him n replying his messages. Conveying your feeling in a very clear language will make him realise where u both stand n hopefully he'll back off.

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  • mcflurrylover
    9 years ago

    First, make it clear that you don't want anything to do with him, the avoid him

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  • izatar97
    9 years ago

    Be honest with him. But be careful too.

    Tell him, "this is what I'm noticing, and I think you're a great guy, but these behaviors really worry me. If you continue this, I'm going to call the police, which I don't want to do, but I'm concerned."

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  • cupcake_wants
    9 years ago

    tell him you have a dick

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    • Sog
      9 years ago

      They already had sex, so I don't think this one will work.

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      • cupcake_wants
        9 years ago

        well tell him u used to have a dick

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    Tell him to fuck off. If that doesn't work get a gun.

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