I'm very interested and disgusted at the same time. iin?

A person is attracted to another person. He/she wants to be with that other person. And I'm very interested in this whole procedure, because I don't understand it. What is going on in your mind, when you are having these feelings? What is wrong with you? People are disgusting, why would you wanna live next to one of them?

I'm fascinated by the idea of people actually wanting to live as couples. I have ZERO empathy on this one, and still am very interested in it. Is it normal?

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  • dappled

    To be honest, I'm interested in how you feel about it too because it's obviously different to me. I'm not sure being attracted to someone means there's something "wrong" with me, though. More that it's just different to your personal experience (which obvious isn't the arbiter of right and wrong).

    But, anyway, what do I feel? It varies but I can give you an approximation that would be something approaching "common". It starts when you find yourself thinking of the person for no reason, like your mind is reminding you that they exist. You think about them a bit, think of something funny they did, or something nice, smile, and then carry on.

    Usually, the frequency of these thoughts increases. Sometimes you find yourself thinking, "Wow, she really does have nice eyes / hair / lips / cheekbones" and you pick specific memories of them that are like positive reinforcement. Whether it's something you approve of, some trait you find positive, something that increased your curiosity, or something sexy. Soon you are thinking of them all the time. You can often feel this way without it being requited.

    If it is requited, then all hell breaks loose. Your head swims with positive chemicals and you become temporarily insane. Everything takes on greater significance. Like seeing her name written somewhere or even just the first letter of her name. You become slave to overwhelming sentiment but in a good way because it feeds this thing between you. You feel invincible, in an altered state, as if the world makes sense where it previously hadn't. Previously it was cold and dark and lonely. Now it's like a carnival of lights and noise and all your favourite things. When you think of the happiest day of your childhood, it's like that. To outsiders, you'll look stupid, sappy, may even be annoying. But to be on the inside of that thing? There's nothing quite like it.

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  • Mando

    Don't worry. There's still space in the world for hermits. isolates, loners, troglodytes and assorted recluses.

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  • disthing

    I can understand how you might be confused by the process of attraction, especially if you're abnormally uninterested sexually and/or emotionally with people.

    But why are you disgusted by people? You ARE a person. Disgust creeps into the realm of a phobic, irrational response rather than mere curiosity.

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  • Terence_the_viking

    Fuzzy wuzzy feelings and stuffs.

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  • I actually understand this. I always felt this way although Ive had a girlfriend a couple times even though I didnt want a relationship in the begining. In my last relationship it lasted 4 years and she just grew on me and we started living together. I started imagining growing old with her but at the same time I never felt like being in a relationship was what I really wanted to begin with. I started accusing of manipulating me into getting into a relationship when I didnt really want one to begin with. She dumped me last summer for that and other reasons such as she couldnt get over past problems and also she "outgrew me" and said I didnt change at all. Strangely I miss our relationship but I think if we worked things out it would be the same problems again. I dont think ill ever want to do that again though. Im not compatable with humans nor do I want to be.

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    • toofgod

      Just curious, did you ever fuck her?

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      • Of course. I couldn't imagine someone being in a relationship for that long and living together and not having sex.

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  • Thomas123789

    You can't have sex from a distance.

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  • OnlyOneForMe

    pleasure*

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  • OnlyOneForMe

    Kedders "object for my please." mmmmmmm.

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  • KeddersPrincess

    The odd thing is, I don't understand it either and, yet, I fall head-over-heels for someone every year or so. I like to think that the guys I like are not human beings but objects for my pleasure :)

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  • Who should give a shit anyway,as long as they leave me alone I don't give a FUCK.

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