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I'm trans. My girlfriend... I don't think she understands at all. Sometimes I think she sees me as a girl. Which stings tbh. Not only that but I don't think she knows much of anything about trans* people. She never catches on when I feel gender dysphoria and I don't know if she is trying. I know she cares about me in general I just... Idk I'm really insecure and I'm typing this at 2am so just... does anyone have any advise?
First, NO! Not ALL Trans people are "ATTENTION SEEKERS" I only bring it up in these forums when I know it will benefit someone else. As far as getting your girlfriend to understand, the only way this will happen is if you sit down with her and have a really good hearty to heart. It could be that you are in the very very early stages of your transition and she feels it just might be a phase. But, if this is truly who you think you are, it is your job to open up to her about it. You can't force her to accept you, and I would not throw out any ultimatums. But she needs to know you identify as transgender and you would really appreciate her support. Let her know your feelings for her haven't changed as well. Unfortunately it's just one of those things where she's either going to accept you or reject you. If she accepts you, great! If she rejects you, unfortunately that is something you have to be prepared for. Good luck to you.
This is honestly everything I was going to say. You need to have a real heart to heart with your girlfriend and help her understand how you feel. She may never completely get it, but as long as she agrees to do her best and be supportive this could be a fulfilling relationship.
I'd also add that you should ignore the ignorant comments in this section. There seems to be the same members of IIN repeatedly making obnoxious statements and I know it may hurt.
First off, I apologize for some of the other comments you're receiving. My husband is also trans. I'm a cis woman and have absolutely no comprehension of what it feels like to be trans. So when he came out to me a year into our relationship, I was less than understanding. It feels terrible looking back now, but I jut didn't get it so I was scared. Scared I would lose him, he'd become someone completely different or would just leave because I wasn't equipped to handle it all. It took me some time, but the more he talked to me about the things he wanted and I saw how happy it made him being himself, I opened up too. What helped me the most was him sharing with me. Now I wouldn't have it any other way with seeing him this happy and knowing he trusts me.
Just talk to her. Help her understand what it all means and what you need from her if she chooses to stay. Share the good parts and the bad. If she has it in her, she'll figure it all out and come to peace with it. If not, it wasn't meant to be and you will find whoever you are meant to be with. I hope this helps a little. Good luck 🖤
Thank you so much for this response. I'm trying to ignore the negative comments and I'm going to give your advice a chance to settle in my brain so I can choose what to do. I hope you and your husband are doing amazingly and continue to have an amazing relationship.
Does your girlfriend only likes Girls?
You have to see it from her Point of view, she got together with someone she viewed as a girl. it´s not that easy to just change your opinion like that.
What are you doing to try being a trans guy?
Maybe she doesn't understand because she still sees you as a girl?
You should find someone who loves you for you, who you are on the inside. That's all that matter.
We love you !
what percent of the population is trans? 1%? 1/2%?
cause it seems every fuckin one is on here askin inane questions daily
are all trans peoples so attention seekin and annoyin?
If your girlfriend is a lesbian and you decide to spontaneously grow a dick, I can understand her completely.
First off you need to tell her how you feel and educate her on the subject so she can understand. Some people are just Oblivious and don't understand or see that something is bothering someone. Communication is key. After you tell her how you feel and educate her on the subject and she still doesn't understand well then maybe its time to let go. I hope things work out for you.
You need to have a serious talk with her. If she changes and begins to understand where you're coming from, then good. If she doesn't, its time to leave. In this type of situation, you come first and this relationship will do nothing but drive you into the ground unless something happens.
My partner is trans and would have dumped my ass if I treated her like this. Stay strong. You're very important.
Go to a church, go in one of the confession booths, and get rid of your sins
Actually I don't really care. I'm just here to mess around.
My boyfriend is tbe same. He just bought me some work pants (im broke as fudge) and he got all rushy while we were at wallmart sp i ended up getting guy pants, yes there just work pants but wjen 90% of my clothing i wear is work clothing it really frigging stings. And he couldn't understand why ive been so upset abput it even afyer ecplaning it, hes just lioe there jist work pants. But yea it bloody hurts so i feel you, though the wprst part is hes dated trans girls his whole life so he should understand. Its times like this i dont think me and him will last. Hopefully you get your girl ecucated and wje will understand
Do you crossdress or are transitioning? Does she find men or transmen attractive? If you're not and/or she isn't,the second you do it's going to cause problems since she sees you as a woman and has always known you as one. Perhaps you should break up to avoid the problems? I've seen this happen to couples before.
How is being trans an illness? Ah this answer is going to be interesting.
Ok.. There's no need to be an ass. I'm sorry I took what you said a different way than what you meant. I'm human.You didn't specify about which part you were talking about. And thats what I thought when I first saw it. It was a mistake anyone could of made. next time specify what your saying and don't be a dick. Have a wonderful day. (:
yeah, you just wanted to be offended that's why you took it the wrong way buddy
Why would anyone want to be offended on purpose? Do you not know how idiotic your comment sounds? Hmm, well guess you don't or else you wouldn't of written it. And you have no clue what so ever who I am or what I had thought in the moment. It was an easy mistake anyone could have made. Jinko could have clarified better what he/she was talking about. This is why talking over the internet can be a horrible thing because everything gets miscommunicated. Have a nice day... Buddy.
its a mutation just like being gay. doesnt make it a bad thing, all evolutionary traits come from mutations.