I'm suspicious of my daughter and son relationship

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I have a son, who is 19 and a daughter, who is 17. I'm suspicious of their relationship. I went through some tough divorces and I've been away for a couple of years but I wanted a father for my children and they had family friends watching over them and I've been calling them all the time and we spent holidays together. Now I got divorced and I went back home. My son is supportive, but daughter is acting so harsh towards me like she wants me gone. I assume that's because she wants to be alone with her brother. She said they are better off without me! My son is ALWAYS in her room behind locked doors. Sometimes they are giggling and sometimes they would just go too silent and he is staying there very late, like 2 am. He might even be there when I can hear water running in her bathroom. It's apart from her room but still. I've noticed them exchanging disturbing smiles and looks. I'm concerned but got no proof and I can't confront them or make them seek counseling. Or maybe it is normal?

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  • CountessDouche
    9 years ago

    You weird cunt. You've been spending waaaay too much time on this website if incest is the first conclusion you came to.

    I have a close relationship with my brothers. Yes, we had private conversations that involved laughing our asses off. Yes, we sometimes fell asleep in the same room (seperate beds, obviously)...that's totally normal...why the fuck would you think they're banging. Maybe they're smoking weed and they don't want you to know...you fucking weird ass.

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    • NeuroNeptunian
      9 years ago

      Cut her some slack, she wouldn't fuckin know. She just now decided to come back and try to play Mommy. She ain't about that life.

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    • regisphilbin
      9 years ago

      i sure as hell dont want no flipper grandkids

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  • stopandthink
    9 years ago

    Sounds like some stressful shit you're in :/
    I don't know if installing a cheap secret camcorder in their room would be an abuse of their privacy. But then you have the right to know.

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    • NeuroNeptunian
      9 years ago

      If my Mom was like her - leaving us behind to go find her dream man rather than sticking around and being, you know, a parent? I would say fuck that, she doesn't have the right to know shit about our personal lives. She lost her right to know when she gave up her role as a parent to pursue her romantic escapades. Think about it, she left them without an actual parent to find them... A parent? That sounds like a cheap excuse for ditching your kids.

      My opinion is probably biased though. My Dad has been gone for over a decade and if he were to suddenly come back and want to dig out answers about my personal life, I would likely lol at him.

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      • stopandthink
        9 years ago

        Some of her decisions have been a bit iffy haven't they. But to me it still sounds like she cares about them. Besides they're living in her house, so I don't know. Thanks for the thoughtful reply.
        By the way, it is irrelevant, but are you a Mormon?

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        • NeuroNeptunian
          9 years ago

          It's not my vehement disagreement but love is in the deed and her deed was abandonment due to convenience... It touches a sore spot in me, I suppose.

          I was once a practicing Mormon but I've seen fallen away from the church due to some personal disagreements I have with some of their policies.

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          • stopandthink
            9 years ago

            I'm sorry about your father. And I was just asking if you were a mormon to confirm, I read you say that before.
            I just wanted to ask out of curiosity, how does Mormonism leviate from mainstream Christian beliefs? I could google it but it's better to hear from an experienced person.

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  • wafflesundays
    9 years ago

    why dont you just ask them? or just randomly talk about inbreeding problems..

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  • teal'c
    9 years ago

    i wouldnt do anything like installing cameras. i would try and build up a healthy relation ship back up with your daughter and then you can then talk more easily about the issue with the brother.

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  • Arm0se
    9 years ago

    This is the first time I've heard a brother-sister incest story from the point of view of the father :o

    Weather this is a troll or not, I'm interested in hearing more.

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  • ginsters101
    9 years ago

    Surveillance - you need to put a (very) discreet recording device in the room, one way or another you will find the truth.

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  • iEatZombies_
    9 years ago

    It sounds like they're locking you away from them rather than locking themselves away from you. Just because they don't want you to be a part of anything doesn't mean they're doing something they shouldn't be. Honestly, I think you may be distorting some of this stuff in your head. Of course everyone else will tell you to be suspicious, but that's because they're looking through your suspicious eyes. It would sound suspicious to me, too, if I didn't see where you're likely distorting things out of fear. It's very easy to pick up false patterns, I understand. It's human, even. Just don't let your own head play games with you.
    You should set some ground rules, though. You shouldn't allow them to lock their doors unless they're doing something private like getting dressed. You should knock before your enter, of course, and shutting doors is fine (Unless there's a friend over, then the door stays open a crack), but locked doors is absolutely unnecessary.

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  • RoseIsabella
    9 years ago

    How many divorces?

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