I'm still in love w/ him...

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For over a year, I've had a HUGE crush on this guy. After knowing him for a year & a half, I'd definitely say that I love him. My feelings for him are so different than my feelings for anyone else. I've never felt this way about anyone my entire life. He's just so different & perfect to me.
The only problem is, he sees me as nothing more than a friend. I've brought up my feelings to him three times. The first two times, he brushed over It & didn't give me a straight answer of his feelings. Finally, the third time, he admitted to not see It happen between us.
I completely understand & I know that I can't change his feelings. All I can do is respect how he sees our relationship & remain being just friends.
But I still can't help thinking about him a lot & wish/ hope things could be different.
I have a bunch of guys tell me a lot that they like me & one of them I'd say is very sweet & probably the only good enough one for me out of the others who hit on me. Hell, he's too good for me!
But I don't want to date him yet because I know that my feelings for the other guy will definitely get on the way. My feelings for him have gotten in the way of my past 3 relationships. I don't want to hurt my friend, but I'm so in love with that other guy, and I just don't know what to do.
If I keep obsessing over my feelings for this one guy, I know that nothing will ever get better. But I really really don't want to hurt this other guy. I've been thinking of just staying single until that one guy goes to college & I won't see him everyday & hopefully I'll get over my feelings.
What do you think I should do? How can I get over this?

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  • Aliceee93
    9 years ago

    It's hard having feelings for someone when they don't feel the same back, liking someone is hard enough, but loving them? It obviously isn't meant to be and you will find someone who you are meant to be with then you'll think back to this time and be glad it didn't, because it showed you the way to someone else :)

    It's all to easy to think 'what if' but you can't change his feelings. It might be easier to distance yourself from him for a while until you start to move on.

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  • ucipher8
    9 years ago

    I obsess about people that strike me as attractive and have certain qualities in their personality and attitudes that i find desirable. Until i find a reason to give up said obsession, like finding out they are already in a relationship, ill move on to someone else eventually.

    This kind of behavior has led and is leading me down a path of loneliness where the only social activity i gain is in and through my work life.

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