I'm still hurt, angry, bitter and its been 10 years, is this crazy?

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As any 15 yr old girl, it is hard enough to deal with adolescence. Having a new woman move in and change your house around with her furniture, move her fat ass 17 yr old lazy son in as well and drain your dads $ and be jealous of you because your young, pretty and have your future ahead of you while shes miserable and fake inside would drive any kid to madness. I was raised by my father, I also have a younger brother. My dad was successful and this woman didnt even work. She was wretched, conniving, golddigger. But when my dad asked me if I liked her and if he should marry her, I said yes. She destroyed my family. She was sickly and depressed and now my dad is sickly and depressed and shes better off. Why do these situations happen. Did I deserve to have my life destroyed. I've lost hope and been depressed all through my 20's. I need help, someone please help me.

Move on, give up hope of trying to be in his life the way we it was 4
Not give up on my dad.... 8
Hurt Her.... 3
Have someone else hurt her.. 2
Be selfish and just think about myself 1
Swallow my pride and be a slave to her so she will think im harmless 0
Succeed in life, fuck what any of them think 15
Tell her my true feelings about her 8
Tell my dad my true feelings about the situation.. again 7
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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    Any story seems correct until the other person's side is told.

    Listen to me. Happiness (an internal quality) doesn't hinge on external circumstances. You can be totally at peace in the middle of a storm.

    Think on positive things and look towards the future and you will find peace. I guarantee it.

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    • [Old Memory]
      11 years ago

      It's a quote from the Emperor Napoleon and I've always liked it-

      "Cast off your worries along with your clothes when you go to sleep each night"

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  • JMont
    11 years ago

    You can't make decisions for other people (you can only advise them). So live your own life. Figure out how to isolate yourself from that crap.

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  • RoyalKnight
    11 years ago

    It's normal but not healthy. I've been through kind of the same thing myself. My mom married twice, the second time to my current Stepfather. In the beginning he seemed like a good father figure but after getting married the man completely changed his colors. He became verbally and psychologically abusive, making me and my brother absolutely miserable throughout childhood. The man is also a supremely addicted gambler, dragging my mom into this addiction as well.

    The thing that baffles me most is that my mom is well-aware that her second husband is a deadbeat but yet even to this day, she's still with him. I don't understand this and it drove me crazy before.

    You know what though? I'm not going to make that same mistake my mom made. I'm going to be the strong person that my mom could never be. I refuse to let my negative feelings and my resentment towards this man run my life.

    That's my advice to you. Be the strong person that your dad and this woman could never be.

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  • Energy
    11 years ago

    Well, his decision. I'd just accept it. Nothing else you can really do.

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  • Sailor_Cosmos
    11 years ago

    Sadly, you cannot change the past. All you can do is distance yourself from this woman as much as possible if she is still married to your dad. If not even better. Just realize that you were a child when all this happened and none of it was your fault, you have to blame the adults i.e. your step mom and father. Best to look at it that way, come to terms with it and move on, live in the present moment and be positive.

    Good luck :)

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  • Retard73
    11 years ago

    You could place a hit on her, call +22 7344540 for mor deetails

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    from your story i think you have knowledge , you dont sound like an adult who is confused and blaming themselves , you seem to know where the problem started, this is a positive in yr story, not blaming yourself, good luck

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