I'm starting to fall for a pansexual

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She confessed to me, (it all started there) I rejected, then now she tells me her crushes which are guys and I'm confused about her gender, it's like she never confessed, she still tells me she loves me, love is a deep word, (but the way she uses it though..) and suddenly my feelings slowly grew for her.. I don't even know why, I'm straight and she's pansexual.. (like I want to go on a date with her, just like when she confessed; she said it was like an actual relationship, with the dating and all) We're both just probably confused about our genders, so we do these things.. So is it normal that I'm straight and have feelings for a pansexual?

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  • Jebus-Kreist
    8 years ago

    It kills me seeing women post on the internet about "being straight but liking a girl who also likes them back" but refusing out of some non-existent principal! The Bigotry! The Bigotry!

    Also, just because you know "You're female" doesn't mean you know what gender you like. Congratz, you learned what you should have known back in kindergarten provided you weren't gender confused and considering a sex-change operation. Something tells me that someone has imprinted gender-rolls into you something fierce.

    Face it, you are bisexual but in denial. Bisexuals like both genders, but typically have a preference in one or the other. You have a preference in men, but your have fallen for a girl. You are just confused, refuse to believe this, and refuse to act on it in denial. Just accept it and try it out before you make a potentially false claim.

    People would be all over a guy telling him he's in the closet and refuses to come out if he posted this. So you need to get out of the closet yourself. You won't lose anything by trying, trust me. You can only gain. You will learn your proper identity, whether or not you actually like her, or you find that you like woman as well just not her, or you actually find viable proof that you're straight and she becomes a good friend.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      But what I meant to say was "I'm straight" not "I know I'm straight", sorry.. But I really consider myself straight since I litterally don't want to be in a relationship with a girl for the rest of my life.. As in, no homo.

      I mean I stick to my religous ways, so I guess I could be a little stuborn. But that better be official or I'm considered sexually fluid since she's the only girl I have feelings for, and I don't have feelings for girls (Other than another girl where I only like her because she's cute, but other than that, no feelings) in general. Maybe I'm..*cough* we are just a little too young and naive.

      And when I rejected her, (since she was such a great friend to me but then she wanted us to be a couple kind of thing, and I didn't want our friendship to end because of that, so) of course we stayed on the same level, (or we'd be the first bisexual couple in the whole campus) and dating is forbidden, unless it couldn't be helped.

      But hey, rather than bisexual, I'm probably a pansexual myself... So yep, ever since I learned about the different genders out there, I became confused of my own.. But thanks for adding that much thought into it. Plus my history of crushes were all guys including now, which is like.. ten, hehehe.

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      • Jebus-Kreist
        8 years ago

        Shouldn't really be confused about someones(or your own) gender if you find yourself liking the same sex as well as the other.

        I also despise when someone uses the excuse "Don't want to ruin our friendship" as an excuse to not date someone. It's like a slap to the face on an emotional level, like they shouldn't have gotten near you in the first place and they would have had better chances. And you will never really be able to tell if they are fine with it or not.

        I know it would burn me up to the point that I could probably no longer be around(ruined friendship anyways, thanks...) or even want to hear about their relationship(s), let alone see them out with someone/meet them.

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  • Livingstone
    8 years ago

    This is complicated

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  • Geturshittogetherfriend
    8 years ago

    So there's the Kinsey scale right? You can be completely straight or completely gay, you can be exactly in the middle or you can be mostly straight but with a few exceptions and vice versa. Sexuality rarely falls into black and white, if they complicate things too much for you, just ignore all labels and focus on finding a relationship you want and not worry about if it matches up with the label "straight" or anything else.

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  • strangethingshappen
    8 years ago

    How do you mean you're confused about your genders? If you have female parts (boobs and a vagina) you're both girls. If you have a penis, you're a man. If you discover you're a girl and have feelings for another girl, you're either bi or curious or just plain in love. If you're a dude, then you're obviously not bi or gay lol

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    • Zonfire80
      5 years ago

      So I guess I'm lesbian then
      Come on lesbians! Treat me as a king.

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  • TF4H
    8 years ago

    If you're a guy and you have romantic feelings for a girl who is pansexual, I think, that is perfectly normal. Because, technically, you're still straight.
    If you are a girl and you have romantic feelings for a girl who is pansexual, then you might be bisexual, pansexual, or just curious.
    I honestly don't really know, but that's just my opinion.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      I'm a girl, I know I like guys, but I like her as in, she's like my crush. I told her before that I was bisexual, or maybe even pan, then I told her it wasn't true because I still didn't know then, but I know I'm female now, I just feel heart broken probably because they don't notice me hahaha.. but yes, I know I'm straigh because I don't want to be in a relationship with a girl.

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      • Ellenna
        8 years ago

        You are getting gender mixed up with sexuality: you're still female regardless of who you are attracted to and it sounds as if you're attracted to her, in which case you're not straight but it doesn't matter anyway

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  • muh-fuh
    8 years ago

    Pansexual? Is her twat shaped like a frying pan?

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    • strangethingshappen
      8 years ago

      Hahaha that's what I thought when I first came across that word on this site, but no it means someone who is attracted to all types. Eg; trans, bi,gay etc

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      • Zonfire80
        5 years ago

        It's offensive to trans people. Also pan girls should be feminine and submissive, just the way I like it baby. Every transman needs a girl to dominate.

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