I'm so lost right now

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So I have been sleeping with my FIL for the last two months now his wife who he is with is so horrible to him always bullying him they have not had sex for the last 12+ years tonight she was so horrible to him verbally he burst into and went out for a walk. Now he was telling me earlier he wishes he could cuddle me and we can go to bed together for cuddles etc. I know what I'm doing is wrong but it hurts me seeing him being treated like this. My husband knows his dad likes me as I have told him and this evening he has come back after the walk saying he is going to move out and rent a flat as he can't talk it anymore. I don't want to continue sleeping with him as it's really wrong but then I feel so sorry for him I have told him to leave his wife and only now he said he is going to but I don't think he will but it's for the best for him. I really want to stop any physical contact with him which is hard as we leave together. And the last 3-4 days I have stopped and he has gone out today and gave me £100 gift card which I said I don't want but he didn't want it back. He went out and got another phone which he texts me on as his wife has access to his phone she opens his bank statements up goes down his computer and she is just horrible to him all the time. What would your advice be. No bashing as like I said I know sleeping with him is wrong I have stopped that now just feel so sorry for him
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  • Flammy
    6 years ago

    I told him this morning it can't continue and he was very upset borderline angry and then he started texting me on his other phone telling me he loves me etc I came home today and him and his wife are arguing yet again and as I was in the kitchen he comes up behind me and puts his hands around my waist. I don't want to have to tell people as obv I don't want people to know but I have told him to stop and he still continues

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  • Cookiesinbed
    6 years ago

    I would tell him something to the effect of even though you guys have shared some times together that seemed right at the time, your conscience is heavy and it's making you feel guilty constantly. Do to the circumstances, it just can't continue. You can encourage him to stay strong and leave his wife if he is not happy and in a bad relationship, and let him know you can be there to support him.

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