I'm scared of social situations because of my appearance..

Hello, I'm a 20 year old boy.
I used to be very happy with my life.
But recently i got crazy amounts of cystic pimples on my face. Pimples have gone now, But i have HUGE BLACK crators or hyperpigmentation marks which last for at least 8 to 10 months..I visit a doctor for this but no use....In this period, new pimples are bound to come once a while and they leave New marks.
My friends keep on teasing me and tell me that "Haha your skin is like so burnt" "Do u use ur skin as an ash tray? "
This really, REALLY, annoys me.
Leave alone the opposite sex(will post another story regarding that coz thats HUGE as well).
The point is that i'm losing confidence and afraid of meeting new people or anyone for that matter. I run away from social situations and have missed so many important occasions.
I don't wanna spend my life this way and it has really IRRITATED me. There are times when i just leave my class go to a secluded place and just cry cause of the way ppl look at me.
Please dont gimme solutions like..."Look at yourself as your beautiful" . I think thats just bullshit.

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Comments ( 21 )
  • nasty_heartbreaker

    Alright people thanks for your comments.
    I've been using Clindamycin Phosphate for pimples and they have disappeared completely.
    Now using a cream called Glyaha Koj for the marks.
    Its getting better by the day.
    Feeling optimistic now.
    :) Thanks.

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    • PoisonFlowers

      Yay I'm glad for you :) I wonder what caused the acne though - it just came out of nowhere like that? Damn.

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  • CrazyNiteOwl

    yes go for make up while they're healing, i've got a guy mate who has bad skin n he wears make up n im always saying how great his skin looks, u cant even tell he's wearing it n his confidence is really boosted. u should also let ur friends know that it's upsetting when they make fun of you, if they're good friends they'll understand n stop. good luck with everything.

    and Ramiz ur the kind of people who "accidentally" get hit by buses. karma.

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    • nasty_heartbreaker

      You're a nice guy. Thanks mate. :)

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  • smciver2

    Try accutane it works so good. I had the same problem and it cured me

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  • almostunreadable

    Well you said it. What do you expect?

    Pimples may go away, in the mean time use your time to work on your inner self. Not that friends would deem you more valuable if you had clear face, you just see the truth enforced on you.

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  • jacobkyle

    I'm sorry to hear about that. Try and go find people with the same skin condition that you have and you will grow confident again. When I was younger I had spots when I was eight. People would take the piss but I ignored them and you were saying that these "friends" were calling you mean comments? "Friends" like that aren't worth keeping. Trust me, you will lose the marks and will grow confidence again! I have faith in you. :)

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  • Celeste

    Oh god, don't even get me started about skin!Mine is either red in spots, or i have a new pinple in an obvious place! Listen, things are lookin' up for you now, which is great-just make sure that the opinions of others doesn't end up controling your life.Happened to me until I became completly indifferent 3 years ago....xp

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  • TofuPoo

    Also, I don't think taking the makeup route is a good idea. It can plug up your pores and create more acne? If you do try makeup, be sure to clean, tone, moisturize, and exfoliate daily.

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  • TofuPoo

    I'm sorry you feel this way. I know it can be hard because of the society we live in today. If you're not already doing so, I suggest working out and trying to achieve a nice leaner body. That way, at least you can be a little confident about your outer appearance.

    Also, do you have any ideas what could be the cause of this? Do you maybe stay home a lot and not get enough sunlight? Genetics? Let us know.

    And everyone should report ramiz for the inappropriate comment.

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  • This will be better in the end because women will like you for who you are. Try makeup if you want to conceal them.

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  • NopeNotNormal

    ramiz, your post was stupid. I hope you didn't waste too much time with it. you're too idiotic to realize people will only shake their heads and roll their eyes in complete dismissal of you. go read a book or something.

    OP - My 15 year old daughter struggled with acne (it never became cystic or anything like that) for a few years before her dermatologist rx'd her minocycline. That, combined with St. Ives apricot scrub worked MIRACULOUSLY. No exaggeration. She literally went from HORRIBLE, constant breakouts to PERFECTLY CLEAR skin within a matter of 2 weeks. She and I couldn't be happier with the results of this. Also, while her face was still broken out, she used MAC concealer and matte powder. Really great stuff for covering up the redness that comes with the breakouts! Good luck :( I'm sorry you're stuck with this problem.

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  • Christoph

    i feel the same, i think . i dont know. if im ugly, and i think i am, and im scared of talking to people because of it.

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  • needadvice

    Aw, this post made me kind of sad. I can feel for you.. I've been through it as well. I went from having perfect skin to horrible cystic acne. People used to always tell me how beautiful I was and that I should be a model, and then I began developing so much acne and hyperpigmentation that I would spent over an hour every morning trying to cover it up. I lost my self esteem, I never wanted to go out and see anyone, I basically lost desire for life because I was so mad about my skin and the embarrassment it brought me. I would cry every time I looked in the mirror.I feel like I will never be the same person again, because now I'm super shy and always paranoid people are staring at my face. However, I was able to heal my cystic acne by eating an anti inflammatory/ low glycemic diet, and only using natural products. And you know what? Now I thank acne. It has made me into the healthiest person I can be, It has led me to my true passion: health and organic beauty products. Acne has also made me more empathetic and understanding of others feelings. I guess what I'm trying to say is you are not alone,. Nobody has the right to judge you or say mean things to you. I'm sure you are a wonderful person, with a lot of great qualities and thats what people should be focusing on. People like Ramiz who comment and say mean things are probably insecure themselves, and the only way they can make themselves feel better is by bringing others down. I bet ramiz would never say that to your face, hes a coward.

    Sorry for the rant. I just don't want you to feel sad or ashamed about your skin anymore. I've wasted so much of my life worrying about my skin ( I still do) and I hope you can find a way to get through this. I know you didn't want people to leave comments like this, but I thought it might help a bit! Hope everything works out for you :)

    Look into dermaroller or other types of procedures at the dermatologist office if its really affecting your life ( Im sure you have already thought!)

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    • nasty_heartbreaker

      Thank you my friend. Means a lot. :)

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  • marlasinger

    try going to a spa for a skin treatment. it may be expensive but they do things like treat acne. you can always try dabbing on concealer and a light-weight foundation. I know you're a guy but trust me, plenty of guys wear makeup on their skin to try to hide acne scars and pimples.

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    • nasty_heartbreaker

      Where do I get such concealers and how do i apply them?

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  • more2c711

    Microdermabrasion or chemical peel?

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  • House

    yeah it sucks i'm still dealing with that problem, the pimples not the "crators".But i'm trying to be positive and not let it affect my life.

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  • daboss

    Its alright my dad is like 50 and he still gets those so just don't let it get to you

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  • ramiz

    poor you try a face transplant.and you're right i wont give those kind of stupid solutions i will say the truth:you are fuckin ugly deal with it.those scars will never disappear and u will always have an ass face.just put a bag over your face in case you will scare ppl,just think about it lol

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