I'm obsessive over my boyfriends attention

I've been with my boyfriend for less than a year but our relationship has moved so quickly. It was great for the first few months, but after about 3 months i got in a huge fight with my parents and left home and went and lived with him. We now live in an apartment with my sister and her boyfriend. We work together, same shifts, everyday. We are constantly together. I feel like i want time to myself to do things i like but i just cant bring myself to not be with him. I can't even stand being in a different room than him when we're at home. He plays nerdy computer games all the time for hours and i get so mad at him for wanting to play them. I sometimes think i'm jealous of the attention he gives him computer games. I feel like he doesn't give me enough attention and sometimes thinks he doesn't love me. I obsess over his previous relationships. I always think he wishes i was his ex-girlfriend or when a sad song comes on i think hes thinking about them. Hes a musician and he writes songs, and i've found songs written about his ex and they are so deep and compassionate and he has never written a song about me..it makes me feel like shit. When we are with a bunch of people i still crave his attention and get kind of mad when he's talking to other people. I know i shouldn't be like this but i feel like i can't help it. i try to be understanding but i just can't. I need help, i don't know what to do :( i don't want to mess this relationship up, he's a really good guy.

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  • 8Serene8

    He shouldn't be making songs about his ex. Tell him to stop being a douche.

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  • Sotchi

    I live with my boyfriend as well, & it is SO important to have time apart! You live AND work together. Any time I spend too much time with my bf, our relationship is tenser & less passionate, & we argue more. I guarantee you that if you start spending more time doing things for yourself and hanging out with girlfriends, that the things he's doing will bother you less because u won't b focusing all your energy on him. I'm not surprised that he plays video games a lot- EVERYONE needs some time to themselves in some way. Having a bit of individual & seperate lives from each other will give you guys more to talk about & will give him a chance to miss and appreciate you. Start small- hang out in a different room or meet with a friend for coffee one night this week and then work your way up from there. I promise it will help :) I know from experience.

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  • kylie71355...yup

    trust me just breath i think you've been holding your breath for far to long breath for once

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  • takeiteasy12

    Yorker2005 has it. If he is playing runescape thats ok.

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  • chaosdragoon1

    Tip 1. Don't get in between a gamer and his games. That's never ends well for either parties.

    You said found songs he wrote. Are you sure he wrote them while with you? I don't think so. Are you sure he doesn't keep the songs he made simply because he is proud that he actually made a song?

    And stop worrying. Most gamers aren't douchebags who will cheat on a loyal girlfriend.

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  • CountryRoads

    Wow I bet he doesn't feel trapped.

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  • Yorker2005

    as long as its NOT world of warcraft, then your good....

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