I'm obsessed with my boyfriend and i need help

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I am completely obsessed with my boyfriend and I cant control myself. We have known each other for over a year now and have had a very complicated relationship.I am at a stage where i get anxiety attacks and panic if he gets mad or angry. I have gone through the extreme of hurting myself in front of him and i beg him not to leave me. He is obviously freaked out because of my behavior and doesn't want anything to do with me.I cant leave his place and its been many months now that i sleep and stay at his place and cant leave because im scared he will ignore me or not talk to me ever again. He doesn't understand and doesn't really care at all when i show him how much i love him , he has insulted me in anger and has made me feel not worth anything just so i leave his place but i still cant. I am so obsessed and i cant help it. I have lowered my self in front of him so much by begging him not to leave me and have changed myself so much for him. I need help because i don't know how to stop this obsession.

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  • _Molotov_Cocktail_
    10 years ago

    I am obsessed with Molotov cocktails, but it is a healthy obsession, so I will abstain from attempting to cure it.

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  • Frostire
    8 years ago

    Clearly, this isn't the right guy for you. You want someone who won't threaten to leave you. This is NOT a normal, healthy relationship. Before you do something you DEEPLY REGRET, either end the relationship or GO SEEK HELP!

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  • Je-llo
    13 years ago

    Even nester wont see this as normal. Give this guy space now, seek help to be not so compulsive and maybe then you can try have a discreet talk with him about how you feel. Oh, and seriously, dont hurt yourself.

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  • morose
    13 years ago

    I have been in a similar situation like yours n I understand how you are feeling. I hope that u can learn to stop hurting yourself. U have to think for yourself and your families n friends. Try to talk to this guy clearly n thoroughly.

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  • MissDecember14
    13 years ago

    You're not obsessed. You're in love. That's perfectly normal. But you're in the wrong type of love. You and your boyfriends relationship is becoming abusive and compulsive. Eith you guys can sit down and calmly talk about whats really wrong or end it quickly. Either way, it wont be easy. Stay strong.<3

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  • 8Serene8
    13 years ago

    Whaaaa?

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  • Savmagic
    13 years ago

    **been in a rut

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  • Savmagic
    13 years ago

    Dooood I've been in your place. Leave that fucking place leave it now and spare yourself the hurt because it's not going to stop. Believe me, life will go on after you stop this because your life has been I'm a rut a complete stop in your life has resulted in being with this guy.

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  • Casual_Swift
    13 years ago

    I agree with the previous comments. No - it's not normal. You have some type of mental disorder.. (probably OCD or something) Seek psychological help and leave him alone. Trust me, he doesn't want you.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    Please before you do something drastic, get help

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  • diji
    13 years ago

    Wow, I really think this is not normal at all.
    Seek help! you need to breathe! break up with him. Your relationship doesn't sound healthy at all.
    Good luck!

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    Im serious wen i say
    go to couples counselingg

    it will helpp

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  • runnergirl
    14 years ago

    Wow. So not normal. I'm so sorry you're feeling this way. You will be ok if you break up. Honest. Please don't threaten people. Seek help. You need to learn how to love and respect yourself enough that being alone isn't so scary. You can do it!

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  • Proudfear
    14 years ago

    well if its not gonna work its not gonna work i suppose, try sitting down with him and talking dont get obsessive its probably unappealing to him for u to act like that. never beg or lower yourself it makes you seem pathetic which is unappealing ,and if he gets mad like that you shouldn't be with him if u get anxiety attacks , see a therapist itll help more than anyone here can

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  • PushingForward
    14 years ago

    You need help. Im not being mean, you just do. Try and seek out a counselor or a shrink. It wont end with him if you dont.

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