I'm obessesed with and super jealous of my boyfriend's ex

You are with him now if he wanted that girl he would have been with her.Stop it

Look, you yourself have said that you've been in a relationship for 5 years so you must understand that it's a long period of time in someones life so of course there is still going to be "evidence" of their relationship - particularly if there wasn't a long gap between them splitting up and you getting together.
You can't hold it against your boyfriend for making plans for the future with this girl when they were together so it's not really fair to keep getting upset with him everytime you come across evidence of their past relationship. I can see where you are coming from but you have to be careful because if you keep going off on one about something in the past that can't be changed then you will start to push him away. You have to really look into your soul and either accept that he had a relationship with that girl or if you cant hack it then move on because you can't change his past anymore than you can change your own. Your guy is telling you he wasn't happy with her and it's over so just accept that what has been has been and enjoy your relationship!

i appreciate constructive criticism but if you're going to be mean then there's no reason to comment. i posted this article because i know i'm acting whack, you don't need to be so mean about it.

jealousy means you care just dont let it ruin everything.

I think that sometimes women (or men for that matter) tend to give the ex too much credit. I mean, the bottom line is that you're either insecure in your relationship or you're insecure of yourself, probably a little of both.
First you need to really see them for what/who they REALLY are. They're human just like everyone else, and I think we tend to over-glamorize those who we're insecure about, jealous of, etc... We don't point point out or even acknowledge their flaws and we imagine things between our current bf/gf and their ex way better than they actually were. I mean, there's a reason they're the ex, but jealousy doesn't rationalize.
I believe that for the most part, when we progress in age as well as our relationship, we start to feel less threatened by their past. From his ex's reaction to your relationship I'm gathering that he could probably be with her if he wanted to pursue her...even if it's just a game for her (which it often is...she's obviously jealous too!) but he CHOOSES to stay with you and from what I've read, seems to be more patient than most ppl would be.
Start working on your self esteem first. You can't give someone 100% , you can't love them with all you have...if you don't love yourself; flaws and all!! :-)
I don't want this to come off as judgement all, but as constructive criticism because you obviously realize that at times you're being irrational and it can't continue without causing major issues in your relationship, if it hasn't already.
A man that patient, that reassuring, that comforting....that's a man that loves you very much and you need to do all you can to keep him, because there are plenty of women (and men) who would jump at the chance to score a bf like that!!
Whatever it is about yourself that has you so insecure, fix it. It won't happen overnight and it's definitely not an easy process, but it's not impossible. I'd start with what's on the inside (that's really what counts the most. Or should be anyway) meditation, positive thinking, practice being more mindful, more "present"...you know better than anyone which traits you need to improve and the same goes for the physical aspect as well. Get a gym membership (maybe go together) and set goals then attain them one by one, anything that helps bring you closer...also I'd make sure to show him your appreciation of his loyalty and patience. Maybe make his favorite dinner one evening or go to his favorite restaurant and make sure he knows that the night is all about him. Let him know where you stand, admit to him that you know you're thinking irrationally and you're working on it and need his help.
I'm far from an expert on relationships or anything else I've written in this book of a comment, but I do believe that you can get past this if you really give it your all, and remember...she puts her pants on one paw at a time

i have the same feeling with my boyfriend. i found postcards n lots of pics with his ex..I got mad n he didnt understand why i got jealous. Now i found out they are chatting all the time. its just kills me..
but u know what.. i decided to have some self respect. go to a salon make myself look the best.
I'm sure this will help to get rid of her.
Honesly i wanna punch her so so so much! maybe one day i will :)

Honestly, I think you've got issues. You never mentioned that he's done anything to betray your trust. So, stop treating him the way you do. He was with her for 5 years... that's a significant amount of time. Chances are he doesn't even think abour her anymore... until you have a sad about his ex. Seriously, grow the fuck up and appreciate the fact that he's with you and not her.

No Prob :]

I hate all my boyfriend's ex's. I think it's normal, but don't let it overcome you. It seems like you're more of the whole package to him. His family likes you, he says you're better. You need to believe that for yourself. There's no need to be jealous of her. He just saw her mainly for her looks. He sees you for your "beautiful" looks & Beyondd. You already won. Leave the jealousy for his ex to have on YOU. (:

You said you think that the ex will say some things and he will leave you right? Look at how you've been treating him. He's stayed with you even though you continue to chew him out over finding old scabs. So I think you need to stop projecting the problem on him and give him some more credit.

Hun I completely understand your perspective but as a man myself quoting my friend Denise looks are what capture your attention is what captures your heart he primly couldn't care less if she rots an dies cause she was a bitch and clearly your personally wins In a attraction battle no need to be jealous

dont you see that he regrets being with his ex? keep up your jealousy and he will regret being with you too.

I really feel for you on this. I hope you can get through it. You better stick with him cause guess what, if you dump him the ex is going to feel like she won. Why did they breakup anyway?

I completely understand, but I think you need to tone it down a bit which could be hard at first. You should probably apologize and tell him you trust him but that you freak out only because you really care about him and your relationship.

If he Is with u then then there is a reason. So stop been jelaous.

I understand how you feel to a degree but this may ruin your relationship. You need to speak to your boyfriend about it and I think you owe him an apology too because your jealousy is unwarranted. Perhaps he should get rid of the pictures and anything else regarding her and as time goes on you will forget about it.