I'm not very affectionate, i hate talking about feelings, etc. etc.

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So this is going to be a long post but well I need honest answers. I don't mind relationships however I don't want to be in one forever, I hate talking about feelings I find it annoying and intrusive. If I'm comfortable on the couch and get snuggled I get annoyed and upset unless I asked you to come to me. I can't stand clingy, constant verbal bombarding makes me pull further away. I am perfectly content being alone or away from my partner for long periods of time. I make this perfectly clear to anyone I date from the first day. However every last one has assumed that they need to change me into a sensitive talking man that will submit to every cuddling need and want, and get furious at me when they emotion dump and I say nothing because hell I do not know how to react to that. We are not all the same. But is it normal to be honest from day one and then get blindsided when the person you are with tells you I thought you would change. To me if you think I need to change you should not be with me because you are trying to take the person you "love" suit your needs. I'm not abusive I'm not mean, I'm very caring and loving, but also very much a man. I don't get why this is so complicated.

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  • SandyGun5555
    8 years ago

    I can't stand people who talk about their feelings, it's so annoying. I'm right with you there, mate.

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  • howaminotmyself
    8 years ago

    Are you sure they want to change you? Maybe they just want acknowledgement that they mean something. And feelings aren't a bad thing to talk about. I get that you want to be alone at times. But having a deep conversation can open up the ability to be comfortable, on both parts, to be alone.

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  • Tybo626
    8 years ago

    I'm the same exact way I'm an unemotional man and people tell me I'm insensitive because I don't know how to react in extremely emotionally charged situations which usually leaves people thinking I'm an indifferent asshole but I realistically don't know what to say to come off as understanding which only leaves logical responses

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  • Short4Words
    8 years ago

    Some people pick people to make the perfect boyfriend or girlfriend out of them. But when I say some I mean a lot. I did that to someone and I kind of regret it, but if I didn't do it I guess I'd never learn. Thing is, don't waste time on people like that. Hopefully you find a girl who respects you for who you are or would I dare say, likes who you are. All of it, I mean.

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  • Andurlittledog2
    8 years ago

    Good point. I know I don't have to talk to let them know they mean something. I should probably start doing that more.

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