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my daughter has more of a life than i do and has had more boyfriends in the last 2 years than me. I even stop her going out cos im so jealous, is it normal to be so jealous of your daughter
Just face the fact that you're old...youre daughter is young let her be free and have fun.why should u be jealous for?go do something old people do
Thats lame for u to stop her from going out because of that reason , go find a new path in ur life , enjoy ur freedom and arent u married ? 0_o
No, it is not normal--you should get a life of your own. But that depends on how old your daughter is--if she's 12 and has that many boyfriends, then yes there is probably a problem. But if you're both grown up women--it's silly to be jealous of her: you're in different stages in life, everything is probably still pretty new to her and she is eager for fresh experiences. You should relish the fact that finally your daughter is grown up and you can enjoy your own independence! Go to a single's club or sign up for a MeetUp group. Good luck!
So you hurt your daughter because you choose not to have a life. She has to sense your motives and that could hurt your relationship with her long term.
Go to the gym, get in shape (round is not a shape), grow your hair. I cannot overemphasize the importance of looking good as we get older.
Older women can be radiant and have a special charm the young ones lack. I know only a FEW like that.
I dont think its that strange but I think is messed up, selfish and sad. I have known mothers like that and it horrible. Your daughter WILL pick up on this and it will effect her later on. Get a grip and be happy for your child if people like her and she is pretty. You made her and you must have made her pretty and sociable and how dare you begrudge her that. There is no exuse. You should try and form a better perspective before it comes back to bite one of you in the butt. Let her have the attention as long and its safe and in good fun. I'm sure you are a good mom with a good kid so be proud of her.
It's a shitty situation, but I've known people who had their mother's jealous of them. It's not cool, and not healthy. You need to start having a good time on your own, and you should let your daughter have fun. Age appropriate fun.
Well, she's starting out in life, and yours seems to have taken a detour. So yeah, I can see how you'd envy her youthful vitality, innocence and the freshness of her life.
But it is wrong to hold her back just out of envy.
Its time to get out there & rediscover life for yourself.
mm I think instead of being jealous.. you can be constructive and give her advice from your experience? I think it's pretty useless to feel jealous.. But, as "Cheeryspider" said.. if she's too young then it is a problem.
Just because you're jealous doesn't give you the right to stifle your daughter and keep her from having fun. Unless she's having sex or doing drugs or something of course.
You're being a big baby. The reason you don't have a life is probably because you sit at home in front of a TV or computer screen. What's preventing you from getting a job, or taking classes somewhere, or doing something constructive with your life?
I don't think it's normal. I thought most mothers wanted their children to have better lives than them anyway.
Stop being so selfish, your daughter isn't a kid anymore. So what if she has had more boyfriends than you? Someone your age shouldn't be jumping around from guy to guy, looking for unstable relationships anyway. I think you should be proud that your daughter is making something out of her life.
How petty and immature is it to keep her in?
my mum is exactly the same, as in she has told me on several occassions that she's jealous of my appearance and social life.
you're her mother, grow up.
yes it is normal but you shouldnt stop her form living her life just because your jealous of ner
Aren't you nice.
-Wake up in the morning, "Hmm? I think I'll ruin my daughter's social life because I am a deadbeat and can't get my own man!"
Yup, great idea.
Not normal..
My mother was jealous of me. Even when her boyfriend put her hands on me when I was 6. She never wanted what was best for me and I was severely neglected my whole life. Now I am 30, I have battled addiction, abusive boyfriends, been a stripper, tried suicide, have no friends because I don't trust people, and have had a really bad life in general because I didn't have the love and acceptance that every child desperately needs. You need to get some therapy, find a way to get over this, and learn to love your daughter the right way. Otherwise you will just create another heartbroken adult with a really sh%%tty life.
P.S. One of the major reason my mother was jealous was because she could not age gracefully. You look at your daughter and see her youthful face and body and then look at your own. That IS NOT NORMAL. If you don't love yourself, how can you expect to love your kid properly? Again, don't ruin someone else's life because you refuse to help yourself. Your child did not ask to be born. I do applaud the fact that you are self aware enough to even ask this question, but this isn't the place to get real help for this. You already know that it's wrong. You have to decide if you are willing to fix it.
Um, no it isn't normal to be that way as you are appearing to be yet another parent in a sea of crap that is out there.
However, you daughter should be spending more time in school and less time being a skank. However, you don't think this way as you secretly want to be a skank yourself.
I'm the opposite. My parents were both very good looking, and popular. Hell, my father was the captain of a couple of sports teams. I was stuck playing the tortured musician in highschool.
I know what it's like to be lonely and desperate, and trying to force your dark feelings onto your kids is disgusting.
Put her up for adoption, because you are a fucking monster. Go to hell you sick bitch.
Why are you letting it get you down do something about it you still have a life still young enough to have sex don't let your daughter stop you let your hair down and go wild
moms shud never be jealous of dere daughters.......let her hav fun u old woman....get a life
its probably normal..justnot healthy...are you that sad over your life...how can you come to terms with those feelings...maybe you need someone to talk to about it
Hun stop being jelous of your daughter and go play cards with Herbert the Pervert.
Let her live her own life. How would you of felt if this was u when u was her age!
It's not strange, jealousy can eat you from the inside out.
Maybe you have had problems for a large part of your life and are therefore busy with yourself a lot. That can influence the joy you can get from enjoying the life of others, even if it's your own daughter.
You could consult someone like a shrink about your life, fix it!
your acting like one of these stupid egotistical women that can't accept getting older.
hello , your and aging adult and your daughter is in the prime of her life,
you've had your youth now be happy for your daughter to have hers.
you don't have boyfriends you fool you have a relationship and provide a happy and secure home for your daughter , that's your job .
You were a daughter once and now she is your daughter, look after her and forget your aging ego's for once in your life and think about her.
It's normal to feel jealous, but it usually stems from the mom not having been able to go out and be a teenager when she was younger or having an abusive family situation as a child and so on. The main thing to focus on is what you would want for your daughter, and you should want her to have the things you didn't. :-)
You were young once. youve been her age before. so get over it why be jelous? shes your daughter. mothers shouldnt compete with their kids. Your not a teen nomore -.-
Why would you do that to your daughter? She's done nothing wrong wright? so dont punish her. She's in school around boys all the time no wonder she has boyfriends all the time. Dont be selfish, if you were her would you think its fair to be held back? She has to live her life for her, you have to live your life for you.
It is normal to feel jealousy toward all people at some point but the important thing is not to act upon those feelings therefore sabotaging your own flesh and blood that only makes your relationship with your daughter worse , when you see someone that has something you wish u had don't be a hater be happy for them and if it is your daughter you should be thankful to god that your dAughter exceeds where you failed because obviously you are miserable and misery loves company , so be proud of her and be happy for her , be for her not against her she's your creation don't you want your creation to be better than you so that her creations will be better than her and so on and so forth and see then your legacy just keeps getting better and better and If u r still jealous then u have alot to overcome within yourself but u can't blame anyone else for the way you are in the process even though it very well may be justified you r an adult and you can think for yourself and you have the power and the choice to change the way you are and the first step to that is forgiving and letting go of grudges and let go of things u cannot change or have no control over because control is an illusion
I could see stopping her from going out if she runs and runs all the time, but because you're jealous?? No that's not right. My youngest step has a friend who's mom is always hanging around acting like they are. How sick! LOL! I can understand that maybe your daughter is doing things that you never got to do in your childhood, or even now, but that's your OWN fault. I mean, REALLY. Don't punish her for your misgivings. Let her be a kid, but don't be afraid to pull back on the reigns, FOR THE RIGHT REASONS. Focus on your own life, and change what your lacking. Good luck to you! :-)
All 27 people above me are retards. This was obviously written by a daughter who is pissed at her mother for stopping her promiscus behavior.
It seems lik the daughter wrote this thinking her mom is jealous because I don't kno an adult who types like that.