I'm insecure with my femininity in my current relationship

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I'm a 19 yr old bisexual female dating a 21 yr old straight guy.

First off, I've always been a tomboy. I've always had more of an interest in male clothing, male toys, videogames, shows, movies, etc. I've only had 3 female friends in my lifetime and I dated one of them.
I've been working on my femininity. Been wearing makeup and attempting to style my hair. I keep forgetting to paint my nails..
I don't wear dresses because Im skinny & barely have a shape so I feel like a little kid playing dress up.I don't wear tanktops because I feel too exposed.
The problem is with my relationship. When I first meet someone I seem all shy and cute and girly at first and the weirdness comes out over time.I know my boyfriend just thought I was a cute girl that loved videogames and girls. It seemed cool at first, but over time my weirdness and goofiness has come out. I have similar ways that guys have and similar humor. I can be immature and I talk about girls like guys talk about girls. I don't wear dresses or heels. I'm not a cook. I'm not very affectionate so I don't make a point to cuddle. I know my Bf feels like he's dating a guy. His sexual attraction to me is lacking. Idk what to do.
I can't really make female friends because I don't really understand them and I don't trust them for shit. I feel so awkward talking to one and I instantly feel like a guy in a girls body when I'm around them.
I see gorgeous girls in feminine outfits with their hair, makeup, and nails done and they look sexy. I look stupid and childish when I do that.
My boyfriend loves me and I'm not afraid of him leaving me. I just don't know how to be a feminine female for him.

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  • Maya05
    11 years ago

    If you feel awkward being "girly", then don't force it. If it's not you, it's not you. Nothing you can do about that. Trust me, you will feel more lost and out of place if you try to force yourself to be someone you're not. Just be who you are comfortable with being.

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  • Terence_the_viking
    11 years ago

    You shouldn't worry about things like that.

    Be who you want to be not who someone else thinks you should be.

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  • Elyse88
    11 years ago

    You are still very young. My opinion is that it may take some time to feel comfortable in your own skin. However don't stay in a relationship with someone that you feel the need to "change" for. When you are with someone male/female and wether you are male/female, they should make you feel handsome/beautiful even on your laziest bummish days lol

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  • 1000yrVampireKing
    11 years ago

    What I find odd is the fact you say you do not trust women yet you would date one.

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    • Thexoutcast
      11 years ago

      She was a rare exception. Tho I never told her anything very personal about myself. Our relationship wasn't a deep one. Just weed, sex, and videogames.

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      • 1000yrVampireKing
        11 years ago

        Be happy with yourself. If your boyfriend really loves you he will love you no matter what.

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        • Thexoutcast
          11 years ago

          Thank u

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          • 1000yrVampireKing
            11 years ago

            Beside looks don't last forever. Anyone you are wish should love you for you.

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          • 1000yrVampireKing
            11 years ago

            You are welcome dear. Just be your self. A lot of guys love tomboys anyways. They are always fun to be around. A lot less annoying next to those prissy girly girls who are all danty.

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  • SplinterWingz
    11 years ago

    You sound alot like me, except i'm not into guys XD
    Just be happy with who you are, if your BF really loves you he'll accept you the way you are.

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  • lufa
    11 years ago

    I concur with a poster above. Seems to me you're a female-to-male transsexual but don't know it yet. You're attracted to girls but don't feel feminine and are a tomboy. You should probably transition or become 'butch'.

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    • robbieforgotpw
      11 years ago

      A butch hair cut looks the best on a woman.

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    • Thexoutcast
      11 years ago

      Wouldn't I have to be lesbian for that?

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      • lufa
        11 years ago

        Sure, but if you're attracted to men and feel yourself to be a man on the inside then you'd be gay-assuming you transition.

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        • Thexoutcast
          11 years ago

          Seems complicated lol

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  • shade_ilmaendu
    11 years ago

    If you're genuine and true to yourself, there will always be people who will love you exactly as you are.

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  • Energy
    11 years ago

    Maybe you're a guy stuck in a girls body.

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    • Justsomejerk
      11 years ago

      *booty*

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      • Energy
        11 years ago

        Huh?? Lol

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