I'm in love with my best friend..but i'm a guy and so does him...

i don't know how to say this...i'm gay but i never told anyone...the thing is, i have a friend that i know for almost 9 years...and we are very close..but, i think i like him...i dont know what to do..i dont want to tell him and risk our friendship...but, i cannot stand it when he came to me and he keep talking about the girls that he like while we are sleeping together on the bed and cuddle...(yup,we are THAT close...) i need so advice.. is this normal?

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Comments ( 15 )
  • JustDave

    If the guy cuddles with you, chances are he shares your feelings. Straight guys just don't cuddle other guys. Trust me on that. I hope things work out for the best for you.

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  • farisIrisAntm

    "thx" alot johndoe...
    thx guys for ur advices...i really appreciate it..:)

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  • BabyBeluga

    ^ Don't listen to that troll.

    It's normal. Don't worry. I've been through it. And lots of other people go through this too.
    Theres always a small chance that he could like you back, if your close enought to cuddle, you know. Most guys don't do that sort of thing so theres still a small bit of hope.

    But if I were you i'd give it A LOT of time before if you ever decide to tell. Observe him, and see if theres a chance he could like you back. You never know!

    Also, some guys who are gay talk about girls and even go out with girls to make themself straight, or just to experiment.

    I wish you all the luck in the world. Enjoy your amazing friend for now, and just go with the flow until you can decide whether he has feelings for you or not.

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  • Kia_Tallon2

    Here is my oppinion...
    I think it's normal you like your guy friend. And I really do hope the best for ya! You sound really nice, and a cool guy.
    Now if it were me, I would ask your friend what he thinks about guys liking guys. And if he gives a positive answer (like yes) then MAYBE give it a shot. Now a negative (no) then maybe try to find a different approach.

    I like this one guy, and he is bi. And while I'm straight, I have feelings for him, so maybe I'm bi also? But I don't know because I can't think about having a relationship with any other guy, but only him. But anyways again I hope the best for ya!

    wish ya luck!

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    • Jiovanie

      He's just your one exception. Like im gay but I'd have dated Marylin Monroe.

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  • theshytrovert

    Being gay is normal and so is falling in love with your best friend. But it doesn’t sound like he would be able to return your feelings if he likes girls.

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    • Kia_Tallon2

      Don't you think his friend might be bi? There could be a chance. Still I agree, their is nothing wrong with gays.

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  • Tommy747

    U have 2 options: 1. U tell him and risk losing a friend or making it very awkward or 2. U keep it a secret and slowly die inside when he finds Sumone else. I'm sorry but that's the only way. I'm gay and I'd tell him cause is rather date him and stop hurtin myself than stay quiet and continue to be depressed. If u choose option 2 he may say no but still be fine because u guys seem so close. Good luck kiddo :)

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  • Jiovanie

    Yeah actually, men in general are physical creatures they need the physical intimacy, and his cuddling with you shows he trusts and loves you. Just keep the thoughts to yourself, dont risk it.

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  • alv1592

    it's totally normal to be gay, and it's normal to develop a crush on your friend. if he's bisexual you should tell him how you feel..it could work out. but if he only likes girls, it's not gonna go anywhere.

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  • sunnygrl

    Best friend and I are that close. I am not gay. She filled me in that she slept with another woman. She said if she were an all out lesbian I would be her choice. She is bi... we have been Bff for 20 yrs. What she told me did not change my feelings about her. I just told her not to make any moves on me. I don't air her laundry or judge her. I'm glad she trusted me enough to tell me.

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  • BabyBeluga

    You're very welcome. :) I hope everything works out.

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  • Tommy747

    Ur welcome :)

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  • Ratso

    I also totally agree with the above

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  • Ratso

    Omg the moron 2 comments aboves name is johndough! Get it like johndoe?
    Just in relations to his comment........
    Yes im blonde ppl
    But um i'd talk to some1 u trust
    Or ask ur friend to not talk about the girls??

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