I'm in love with a close friend

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Sorry if I have posted this wrong or written wrong. But this has been bugging me for a while.

is it normal for me to be in love with a close friend even though I have zero chance to be with her.

I have known her for about 3 - 4 years now and all that time she has had a single boyfriend (still does) but ever since I met her I have liked her. From this year I have liked her even more and more untill I started calling it love. Because of my feelings everytime that she said she's in love with her boyfriend it really hurts me a lot.
I have not told her I like her as I'm afraid it would make things weird and she'll stop talking to me.

I really don't think this is normal to love a girl who is not avalable and that is a close friend but I'm not shore.

Orso if anyone has any ideas what to do about this that would be helpful. I dont really want anything about breaking them up because I'lled rather her be happy than for me to be.

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  • blackmesa
    12 years ago

    It's normal. But you should end your friendship if you like her. She obviously isn't available and you guys have been friends for 3 years. So you totally are in the friend zone. End it, you can tell her why but that wouldn't fix anything.

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  • ready2rumble
    12 years ago

    You fell in love alone bro, don't worry it has happened to all of us. The girl is in love with her boyfriend, so your chances to get her are close to zero.

    But don't worry is not the end of the world, go out and meet other people, make new friends and stop seeing or talking to her for a while because it will hurt you more.

    If you hang out with new people you will be attracted to other girls, and you'll have a chance to start over.

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  • GuessWho
    12 years ago

    Maybe just bear with it. Try to always be nice to her. Maybe, that way, she'll think of you when she's happy, etc, etc. If they ever do break up, comfort her, make sure she knows how great you think she is, then give her time to cool off, and maybe then if you tell her how you feel, you'll be next in line.

    If she ever randomly asks something like "what do you think of me" or "would you date me", etc. Don't miss your opportunity to tell her.
    You should let her know you like her, you must decide to what extent to reveal your feelings and at appropriate times.

    Just the opinion of a random commenter. Like the person above also concludes, the best advice is to be honest and trust your gut.

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  • screamrezy
    12 years ago

    This is really adorable but have you ever asked the girl what you mean to her? You don't have to ask straight forward but you should find out where you stand in her mind. It may hurt a lot or maybe make you have more feelings but either way you might have piece of mind. Sometimes the people we love most are oblivious of how much we care for them, so when we tell them are truths, their whole mind set could change towards us. Sometimes the bad side effects is what changes your life in the best way possible. What ever you do, should always be honest and trust your gut. I hope this helped. :)

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  • IrishPotato
    12 years ago

    You have no idea how common this is. Just in the last hour, I've seen atleast 5 posts about this topic.

    So yes, it is normal.

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  • thatmuffinman
    12 years ago

    Right, scream's got a point figure out how she feels about you and play it by ear mate. I've been here before and I've played my cards wrong and got boned because of it. I wish you luck.

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