I'm having troubles.

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*MESSAGE TO MODERATORS*
No, this post is not for seeing if this is "Normal". Nor do I intend it to be. It's purely for me to get some advice.
I know, I could post it somewhere else, but this site has a large audience, and I'd rather not post this on Yahoo Answers. Delete this if you want, kinda has an impact on me, but whatever.

I am not going to be looking at if this is "Normal" or not, so I don't care what you rate this.

*Backstory*
I'm a guy. Just putting that out there. My ex, we'll call her "S", lives across the country from me, so it was long distance. She cuts herself (who fucking doesn't now a days..), and doesn't like to sleep/eat. We were planning on me coming up this summer.

So, S and I were going out, skyping almost every night, texting, and all the other jazz. She broke up with me due to the distance, which I was okay with, but I still loved her. We ended up getting back together a month or two later, and recently, she broke up with me again. After she cheated. I like to fool myself into believing things, and I've fooled myself into believing I'm over her. I don't know why I'm still in love, but I am. We still talk. Am I a fool? Should I just forget her? Should I try one more time? It's getting painful listening to her talk about her boyfriend, and I have a feeling it's the guy she cheated on me with.
Also, this may sound really fucking stupid, but I don't think she loved(s) me, I think she loves the way I treat her. I would say the nicest things to her, make her sleep and eat, and I still do. I'm starting to feel like NigaHiga got it right, and Nice guys really do finish last. Because I'm saying all the nice things to her, while some douchebag goes out with her.

TL;DR:
I went out with this girl, we broke up, got back together, she cheated, broke up with me, and I want to know what I should do.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    Allocate some time to cry about it and or get drunk or whatever it is you need to do. After that hopefully you'll realize she is an unstable little girl who has no clue what she wants out of life. You will be way better off finding a classy lady who actually lives in you same town or city. I guarantee you will be way better off NOT wasting any time with this immature little girl. Move on and don't be a chump.

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  • Faceless
    10 years ago

    She must have a lovely magical vagina where every time you stick it in, a unicorn comes tap dancing down from the heavens and presents you with a brick of bullion and a Ferrari. Oh, Whats that? Theres no unicorn? I see. Not even a gold coin? No? Hmmmm. Not even a hot wheels replica? Okay then.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    She sounds like she is unstable and will only bring you more problems. Keep her as a friend if you want but I would completely forget about her as a girlfriend. I also noticed you said "who doesn't nowadays" about cutting. I don't know where you live but that's not normal behavior nor is not eating or sleeping. I am guessing you are under 23 because you haven't learned your lesson yet so do what you want and learn.

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  • WhiteStallion
    9 years ago

    I had a friend once who had a similar problem. Couldn't let go of this girl from overseas he met online. She would be on and off with him. The advice I can give you is have some self-respect. This girl is using you as a past-time and she knows she's hurting you talking about her boyfriend but she doesn't care or is just enjoying the attention you give her. You're being way too easy and desperate, she doesn't respect you. You may still love her but rather drop her first, get a girl near you and soon those wounds will heal and you'll realize it was just a fling.

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  • kingofcarrotflowers
    10 years ago

    She cheated on you. Find someone who respects you. You deserve better

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  • GreyWarden
    10 years ago

    I know what it's like to question if an ex actually gave a damn. The pain fades. Not fast, not completely, but it does. However, just remember it wasn't YOUR fault, whatever happened. Hold your head high, and look for things to take your mind off of it till it fades. I wish you the best of luck.

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  • Terence_the_viking
    10 years ago

    Just face the music and dance.

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    10 years ago

    Just stay friends, if that. She is unstable and probably won't do you right in a relationship. You don't need to try to play hero, she's a big kid. It's time she realized that.

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  • RoseIsabella
    10 years ago

    Forget about her and move on already!

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  • Paradiddle
    10 years ago

    I definitely feel you should just continue being friends. If you want, you can even tell her not to talk about her boyfriend to you because that is very inconsiderate. Honestly, I've dealt with a similar situation of yours except there was no other guy in the equation. I still feel like we could have something and a good portion of our conversations still causes slight infatuation but considering how lackluster her devotion to the relationship was and her fickle mind, I've realized that seriously going after her still is a dumb idea.

    Both you and I can't help who we're attracted to and that isn't a bad thing. Age has nothing to do with it. We can though help ourselves not fall pray to people who abuse others' feelings and in turn, miss out on something much better than what they choose to deal with.

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  • handsignals
    10 years ago

    Is there any chance you could get her BF to suck you off, that would really teach that bitch a lesson.

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