I'm having issues with my boyfriend's son

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I've been with my boyfriend now for a little more than two years. We get his son every other week, thats the way its usually been. At first his son hated me. He would say things to people like, 'i want her to burn alive'. he would intentially throw the throwing knives when i was in the 'danger zone'. things like that(i dont think a kid should be playing with things like that). Now things are better, he says he loves me, and he behaves a little better too. But I am still having issues, lately i've been really stressed about it. I want to have adult time with my man. I want to be able to go out whenever we feel like it, not be tied down because the kids' here. I dont want to have to deal with the stresses of telling him to clean his room, pick up his garbage, get out of the bathroom while we're in it, things like that. I want to be able to be 100% myself when i am with my baby, not be 'appropriate'. If i feel like kissing him, or cuddling, its a problem. I dont know what to think or do...

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  • Ldizzy1234
    13 years ago

    Yeah, it is his son, but that is one disrespectful kid he's got there. It sounds like he needs to be taught a lesson, and have a good talking to. Does your boyfriend reprimand his son after he says such horrible things about you? And you said the kid throws knives?? What kind of parent takes that????????

    I think you should tell your boyfriend about these things, or take your heart and ship out.

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  • Binkamadink
    13 years ago

    I think you probably didn't think it through when you got into a relationship with a man who is a father.

    To be honest, you sound selfish. Either get over yourself or get out before you ruin the relationship your man and his son have and cause damage that will be soley because of you.

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  • Eore
    13 years ago

    You might need to take the son out of the equation if you know what I mean.. *wink**wink*

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  • wreckd
    13 years ago

    Well too bad! It's his SON! Have your time with your boyfriend every other week when he ISN'T there. It's a damn shame he found someone so selfish.

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    • CandiStar
      13 years ago

      Do you really suppose i'm selfish? despite these feelings i still do everything i can for both of them, and keep my problems to myself. i really dont want to break up, i love this man and can see myself with him for the rest of my life...

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      • hackins
        13 years ago

        Don't listen to that douchebag.

        Your thoughts are perfectly normal, I don't see anything wrong or selfish.

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        • wreckd
          13 years ago

          You're an idiot. You obiviously don't have kids.

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          • wreckd
            13 years ago

            obviously*

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      • Ldizzy1234
        13 years ago

        Hey,

        I just wanted to say that even though I've never experienced this with myself, I do understand how you feel. I've seen this happen to many people that I've been close to. I don't think your selfish, but I did read what wreckd said, and I think she could be right about his son. His son is probably having trouble grasping the fact that you are the "new woman" in his fathers life, and because you aren't his biological mother, he's having issues accepting it. It seems like you just want some alone time with you boyfriend. Nothing wrong with that. And obviously you made it clear in your comment already that you're aware that his son will most likely always be coming first, because afterall, it is his son.
        However, I do think his son was acting like a brat towards you. When I read your story I couldn't believe how terrible his son reacted to you. I would hope that you and your boyfriend would sit down and explain to him that you're not there to take his mothers place, because it seems like thats why his son might be acting all weird. Good luck girl!

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      • wreckd
        13 years ago

        That is very sweet and I understand that you love him but blood is blood. My stepmother hated me even though I was a well-behaved child. Her whole family would give me looks and tell me to go away anytime I tried to have time with them or my father. I have really bad self-esteem issues and I believe it had a lot to do with that. They hated me because I wasn't theirs and tried their best to make sure I stayed away. I'm just looking at it through the kid's point-of-view. Don't be the one to make the child grow up to hate his father.

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  • notnormal97
    13 years ago

    Honestly you're lucky! You get every other week off!

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  • aaa83
    13 years ago

    You are a bloody selfish... Imagine him your son... If you really love you bf, you treat his son well, but I'd blame your bf to have a bloody heartless girl like you...

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  • DannyKanes
    13 years ago

    Oh the joys of kids hey? :-)

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  • dannygjk
    13 years ago

    Perhaps he has sexual tension and thats why he is irritating you

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  • nanimeow
    13 years ago

    You just sound irritated at the moment right now. You said he initially hated you and now he doesn't. There has been obvious progress which is a good thing. It will probably just take more time. Also, the kid doesn't live with you so it can't be all that bad and he will grow up.

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  • Who_Fan4Life
    13 years ago

    The 'Danger Zone'?! LMAO

    Yeah, it's time to move on hunny.

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  • hokisgurl
    13 years ago

    I don't think your selfish I understand where she's coming from it mite seem harsh but u mite need to breakup. Cus the kid is baggage Ure the last person the kid is always goinnto be before you that's why its difficult to get involved with someone who's gotta kid Vbut breaking up isn't easy cus your breaking up with the kid too not just ure man I've been in ure shoes once dated a guy with a kid I don't think Id get involved with another guy and his kid because I don't want the kid getting hurt when he gets attached and the relationship is over and he feels abandoned it's very risky business when there's children involved. Goodluck

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